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writes:My husband seems like he is not invested in our marriage. He is very quiet lately, we do not have conversations other than all the mundane things. He does not ask questions to extend the conversation. He never talks about his dreams, or things he would love to do. I make all the plans for us: vacation, what we have for dinner, if we go out or have people over, etc.... He expects me to be his information source about his two college-aged children, he rarely calls them and asks about their lives. For Father's Day we went to Boston to visit our oldest daughter. We walked around Boston and had dinner out. On the car ride home, he did not reflect on the day instead he surfed the web to read out loud how much people make. I would have hoped that he would have some thoughts about our daughter's new job, apartment, etc... nope not one thought or opinionAnother example, our younger daughter and I went to my parent's house - they are selling and moving in with my sister- we packed up a bunch of things for my daughter to use in her new apartment. When we got home my husband asked so how did it go, we responded okay and that was it he never asked another question, nor did he ask what we got, how did the house look, etc... no interest in it at all. I do not understand how to get him to open up and be a part of our lives. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): Every man I've ever know has been exactly like this including my husband too. I always thought men were just emotionally less evolved and cared less about women than women do for them . I was looking forward fo seeing the answers :(
Im a depression sufferer and yes I fuess there's elements that sound similar but to be honest it sounds more like apathy and not caring less. How long has he been like this
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 July 2015):
 This sounds like a classic case of depression. Although I am not a doctor, I did play one in a school play once:) Talk to a medical professional. He might be experiencing a work-related problem(fear of layoffs,etc.) or, he could just be sad about the current state of affairs.You did not mention sexual issues so we must assume all is well in that regard. Right?
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