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writes: I have been with my husband for 7 yrs now and we have not had sex for 1 whole yr. It's not me. I'm very sexual with the person I love but I don't know what his problem is. He just doesn't touch me anymore. I used to try but got tired of being rejected, so now I totally stopped. It hurts every day, cuz I know there would be plenty out there that would want my love. He's always where he says he'll be. Always answers my calls. Work and straight home. I really don't feel he's cheating but you never know. 1 whole yr? Is that possibe for a man not to make love to his wife? I'm attractive... What's wrong with him!! It makes me feel like cheating. I need help, you guys.. Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (19 April 2006):
 As long as the pair of you are communicating there is hope yet for this relationship.
Talk to him in a non-accusatory manner, ask him to explain why he thinks you are not making love any more. If he says he has lost his libido then get him to go the the GP. A couple of blood tests can usually rule out the most common physical causes...ie. low testosterone or thyroid problems. A GP can also refer you to psycho-sexual counselling, or relationship counselling if physical causes are ruled out.
Mainly keep talking. The dangers lie in none communication when either one if you decide to go get *it* elsewhere when they are not getting *it* at home. That is the relationship killer.
Talk to him, good luck.
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reader, Highland Help +, writes (19 April 2006):
 You really need to go to counselling I think he still loves you by the sounds of things and you need to find a way to approach the problem and resolve it. Do not worry and do not do anything silly in the meantime and stop worrying till you have both seen a professional together.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (17 April 2006):
 the best thing you can do is to find out what is wrong and why this is the case may be he is under alot pressure may be he's got problems my fisrt miove would be for you too both go and have some conseilling from a relationship counseillor to determine what the problem is tand to come to a sloution. Somehow I agree with the first answer I don't think he is cheating and it is a possiblbity thst you can rekindle the sexual side of the relationship. Basically don't worry take care ronxxxx
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reader, chachacha +, writes (17 April 2006):
This is passive aggressive behaviour - i.e. he knows that you need and want sex, so withholding it is his way of getting control over you.
You need to start communicating - what is really going on in your relationship? What is he unhappy about? See to understand him, not to criticise him.
Consider going to counselling together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2006): Yes it is totally possible that he is not cheating. I was married to a man for 12 years who has little interest in sex. My recommendation is to go see your doctor. Just like us females, it could be hormonal for him. If he was once interested, he could easily become interested again. Get it checked out before you jump to any other conclusions.
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