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writes:I'm lost i have been with my "man" for 12 years. we have a child together, a nice home, a buisness and a good relationship. problem is we have not had sex in 8 years! yes8!!!! no kisses no touches no nothing...it wasen't always like that the first 4 years were incredible we wer so good together.. A long while back he had some"problems", then went on med's. we beleive it has coused him to have E.D. he will not talk to the doctor about it out of embaressement. We have talked about this problem so many times and i am always told to give him time. At first i never wanted to push it and make him feel unmanly. I have tried so many things. I'm starting to feel like maybe i'm blind.. is he cheeting? is he unatracted to me? is he gay? Answear is always no. problem is i am so lonley and i don't want to hurt him or ruin our lifes by cheating on him, but what do i do? and for how long? I need some advise.. please help i'm driving my self crazy... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): This is very inconsiderate on his part. He has other options to take care of your needs with toys or oral provision. If he's not even trying to help you then tell him you need sex and if he's not going to help you with it, there are a million guys out there that would. That will get some serious attention. If it dosen't then leave him. I'm having my first affair after begging my wife for 2 years. I gave her too many chances and she did nothing, not even a simple hand job. So I found someone. I tried. I also plan to divorce, not for the other woman, for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): That's a toughspot your in. To make a long story short. He has either got to get help or he's gonna have to let you fo what you need to do. It's been 8 years for you. I can't imagine 8 years. If you need my help my number is 555-...... Lol.
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reader, involuntary virg +, writes (21 June 2010):
What kind of meds is he on? What is his physical condition versus 8 years+ ago? Is he carrying an extra 25 pounds above the waist? High Cholesterol? Blood Pressure? E.D. is not just E.D. It's a sign of improper blood flow throughout the vascular system. This is mandatory to talk to the doctor about.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
Well, you've been very patient. I won't say leave, but I think you need to tell him straight that he must get it together, or you'll have to leave. Don't cheat, because that will make you look bad in everyone's eyes. You need to tell him this is now having a huge effect and that unless he gets it together,, you'll have to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Why don't you go to the doctors for him with his permission and get helpfor his ED that was he doesn't have to be embarased.
Or say loose me or go to the doctors because I don't know how much longer I can go on like this.
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