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writes:I was seeing this guy for one month and things were great.He honestly seemed too good to be true. He was so nice to me and I was very guarded because i have been hurt in the past. He promised not to hurt me and is about 4 years older than me. Everything was perfect and then one night i told him something that upset him and it seemed to change everything. The next day he seemed cold, but told me every thing was fine. I point blank asked him that night to tell me if things had changed, but he said nothing's changed and told me i was an awesome girl and he was lucky, that I wanted to with him. Made me think things were fine. The next morning i texted him to tell him to have a good day, and he didn't respond, as he always, previously, did!So decided to give him time, because he told me he needed time to figure things out. After three days he still didn't text me.So I sent quick text, just to say, 'hey' Because i saw someone he knew and he didn't respond to that either.Is this his way of telling me goodbye! I really need closure to move on! Please help what should I do!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all who have responded!It really helps to hear what others think and sometimes people who are close to us dont always tell the truth! Physical attraction certainly wasnt the problem the only thing I can think of is maybe I worried a little too much aobut being hurt all the time and this pushed him away! I guess I am better off!Thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): The answer is DEFINITELY yes.I'm a guy who hasn't called his female date for over two weeks now, she keeps wondering about it with SMSes and calls.Thanks to your post I shall now call her directly and let her know it is OFF.Since I'm anonymous, I'll be blunt and sincere:Lack of physical attraction to a woman is the number one deal breaker. After that, mistrust or 'over nudging' on the female's behalf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): sweetie . i had this done to me .i once dated a guy and he told me he was going to call and never did . i just moved on,sounds like mind games or the guy is not very mature . women like answers and alot of guys dont like to share feelings . so if hes not calling and you tried to contact dont do it anymore . if i was you i would let it go. and move on with your life . do you really want a guy that cant even talk to you about anything .
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): It seems whatever you said may have been a deal breaker for him but you never know, something might have just come up for him too. There's no need to tell us what you said to him, we'll all have different opinions on it and the only opinion that matters is his.I say leave it another couple of days then give him a call. A week is long enough to "figure things out", after seeing a person for a month. There's not much to figure out after such a short period of dating.Give him a casual phone call and see if he wants to meet up and do something fun, if he wants to end this then he can do it in person, but he may just want a bit of time to cool down too. Either way you need closure on the issue and you should keep an open mind, it might not be as bad it seems but be prepared for that to be the case. If he still continues this silent treatment or says he needs more time, then I say you end it with a text or a phone call, that will be your closure because it's only been a month and this guy has chosen the silent treatment and ignoring you as a way of resolving this issue. People like that aren't really worth it in my opinion. They do you a favour when they just stop responding because finding out a few months down the line, when there are strong feelings involved, that their method of resolving issues is to cut off communication, that can be a nasty surprize.
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reader, RookieOnLove  +, writes (28 March 2011):
I can sympathise, sometimes it is what someone else doesn't say that says the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell there is another guy that has been bothering me trying to get me to see that he is better for me than this new guy. I am actually only 19 years old so I told my new guy and he says he doesnt like this highschool drama shit!!! But I thought you should be able to talk to your special someone about anything I guess not!!!!This is what I told him!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): I would say you can draw the conclusion that it's over. Sad but there we are. He didn't have the guts to tell you, when you asked, if he was upset about whatever it was you told him. He obviously couldn't get past that. Shame he couldn't just be straight with you rather than leave you wondering. Most people would rather be told so they know how they stand. Don't contact him again, don't give yourself the pain of another unanswered text/call.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (28 March 2011):
 It appears that whatever you told him upset him more than he let on. Its a shame that he couldn't talk to you about it, but at this point I don't think you're going to hear from him again. He's had several opportunities to respond, and hasn't done so. I'm afraid you're going to have to draw your own conclusions and assume the relationship is over. He's not going to give you closure other than no response. Some people are just that way. It's a horrible way to end things, but some people do take the easy way out. I'm sorry.
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