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writes:People always assume, you MUST have been with the actual person to be genuinely heartbroken. I obviously disagree, this idea is absurd. But recently I've been thinking about it, and people who argued about it may have been true.I had a 'thing' going on this this gentleman - kissed my hand in the most sweetest way.- hugged, kissed.- flirtedETC. You get the picture. I and my friends all thought he felt the same.Something terrible happened last July, and I never saw him again. I was completely and deeply infatuated with this guy and suddenly - it was cut off. To make it all even worse, I went to his facebook just to make sure what happened, and next thing I know he was in a relationship already. Til this day, I can't get over it. My friends are understanding of course, but they find it sometimes silly as I was never with him as in a full relationship with him. What are your views/ experience in this matter?
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reader, sweet_lover101 +, writes (13 June 2012):
sweet_lover101 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys for taking your time to answer. I hope I will soon. I know everyday seems to get slightly better as I know it wasn't as bad as it was last year, but he's still in my mind of course.
Thank you for your kind words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): i know exactly how u feel. i posted on here about loving my male friend. well we always flillrted but then he got back with his ex. well they broke up and i thought id tell him how i feel. so i did. then i took it back of course. and said my friend was messing round. well he told me it would never work with us coz we are not compatible even tho ii amazingly attracctive. well obs im heart broken. :-( u have a right to be upset. u liked him. it does not matter u werent with him. it doesnt hlchange U havebfeelings for HIM. ut will probs take u a while to get over him so try and do things that will take ur mind of him . it will gt easier.xx
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reader, Abella  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Never assume is the best way to go forward.
This man will always have a place in your heart. How could he not? He meant a lot to you and still means a lot to you.
This is sad for you in the short term. And right now it weighs down heavy on you.
He is in another relationship and you were truly smitten
It seems completely impossible to imagine now, but one day you will recognise that you have moved on. People handle the most immense crushing events. And yet they do eventually get over the most momentous events.
Right now this man is the standard. And all guys in the short terms will be viewed against this ideal man who so impressed you on so many levels.
And yet you will not only move on to greater things, you will meet guys who are even more impressive. And better still the feelings will be mutual and will be acted upon.
Have faith in the future. You can never imagine just how good it is going to be.
And you too will grow as a woman into a woman with even more confidence in your abilities and your future.
It is too defeatist to think you will never get over this. You will and you will be pleased that at least you had the joy of knowing such a charming man. There are millions of similarly chivalrous charming unattached and gorgeous men all around the world. And over the coming years you will meet some of them
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