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writes:Everyone thinks my life is so damn perfect and its not. I dont have magical powers to make my life into what people think it ought to be.I struggle and my health lets me down. But that when things get worse.No one has a second to be nice. In fact just the opposite. They couldnt be worse which feels like a real kick in the teeth.So now I trust no one to really care because clearly they dont. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2022): Thankyou wise owl for your kind reply. I do get very low when I am ill and I have just had another bout of covid. I have been the subject of malicious gossip and normally I dont care about it except for the damage it has done to my life.I am fortunately resilient and can move beyond the misery it caused except I feel too defeated when I am ill.I just wanted someone to show a caring attitude and you did.This had a healing effect on me in a spiritual sense. Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2022): People only know as much about you as you allow them to, or the image you've created for them to see.
If people think your life is perfect, could it be because you hide all your flaws and imperfections, and try to make it seem as though everything is cool?
You don't need magical powers to make your life what it ought to be. You need a plan. You set goals, you try to use wisdom and discernment when choosing people to be your friends; and you try to be real and genuine when you're around people, so they will like you for who you are. Not who you appear to be. Don't run with superficial cliques or snobbish groups for the sake of image and appearances. Don't turn your nose up at people who don't seem impressive, but just likeable ordinary people. If you only want to be seen with the "it-crowd," you'll overlook down to earth, regular people.
When you find your circle of acquaintances aren't true or reliable friends; you have to clean house. You start to distance yourself and disassociate; wipe the slate clean, and you create a new social-life to meet and make new friends. You do introspection and self-evaluation to work on your own social graces, faults, and weaknesses.
You might try to make friendly connections by being sociable on the moderate scale. Accepting invitations to family events, social events like wedding receptions, exercise classes, or weekend sociables and brunches. Reacquaint yourself with your siblings, cousins, and extended-family, who will make you feel included. Date for fun, with no worries about whether it's leading-up to a relationship; or might just turnout to be a great friend. With friends, it's quality not quantity. It's not always them, sometimes it's you!
When you have people in your life who offer you no support, seem indifferent about your wellbeing, or don't appreciate what you do for them. You let them go, and just keep yourself visible and available. Try to drop the cynical and negative attitude. You may not change things overnight, it just might take a little while. The world isn't running out of people. Be receptive when people are trying to be nice to you, but you may be snubbing them because they seem too average or aren't flashy. They are usually warmer and down to earth.
If you've ever had faith and worship in your life. Maybe it's calling you back. God is there when people let you down. He'll also send nice people to you, when you remember He likes to be loved and thought of too.
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