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*rkhmcookie
writes:Ok, so i am 17 years old and will be turning 18 in 12 days, i just started having sex with my boyfriend in october of this year. Although we have only been having sex for a couple months we have "done it" many times, (by many i mean at least 3 days a week 3 times a day) now this is all nice and dandy and i'm madly in love with him, but no matter how many times/what we try i can't reach an orgasm, i've had some great moments but never the real thing. now i know ALOT about sex and anatomy (i'm not a retard :) ) and i've tried alot. We've tried missionary, me on top, cowboy, doggie, standing up, him picking me up and holding me in the shower, and nothing has gotten me there, not even oral. (now he is AMAZING at everything i just cant seem to go), i've also tried masturbating in every way/place/pace/pressure possible. any advice? i'm scared that i may not be able to!
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reader, mrkhmcookie +, writes (10 April 2009):
mrkhmcookie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i know what/where a clit is and i've tried dual stimulation, there is a very small percentage of women who can't have one and i'm really starting to become convinced that i am part of those percent. i have tried to do it myself and have had no results...
i love my partner and am fully comfortable with him, he knows of my trouble and we dont rush things during intercourse. we take it slow and there is always hours of forplay... we have tried many diff. positions, any recommendations?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Pressure and stress is the opposite of helpful when trying to get to orgasm. Some facts:-You likely won't be able to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. You might one day, but if you do you'll bin in the minority.-You're far more likely to be able to orgasm with a partner if you can do it on your own first and get to understand your body's mechanisms and preferences.-You may not be able to manually get yourself off. A lot of women have trouble with this. I personally find it's like trying to tickle myself - ust doesn't work.-I'd recommend playing with a handheld shower massage or a vibrator on your own in a relaxed environment when you can feel safe and unhurried and alone.Have you tried anything like this?
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reader, someoneboy  +, writes (8 April 2009):
well it seems that u do sex too much, and that a bit wrong.
my advice to you:
1. Play sport every day.
2. Drink a lot of water.
3. Have a good bath before sex.
4. Don't have a sex so soon, you should warm up first, i mean dont get into sex as soon you meet your friend, make it slowly
5. And finally do it afer a good nap or sleep, so your body is relaxed.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (8 April 2009):
 For starters, it is very common for females to not orgasm with strict vaginal intercourse. I think it's somewhere around 50 to 60 percent of women do not orgasm from intercourse. Try positions where one of you can, at the same time, provide clitoral stimulation in conjuncture with vaginal stimulation. If that doesn't work, then give oral a try.
Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Just relax darling...you're thinking too hard about it. The biggest part to having an orgasm is being completely 100% comfortable and relaxed. Don't do it with the thought of "i am going to have an orgasm"...think more along the lines of just how good it feels, otherwise without even realising it, you're just putting yourself off.
Give it a couple of goes when you're alone and find out for yourself just what makes you tick. Once you're confident then involve your boyfriend. Remember to crawl before running =)
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