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writes:I am in my late 40’s. I have no confidence when it comes to my body. I am on my 3rd divorce and each one of them have cheated on me (I don’t blame them) as I will not show my naked body to anyone. Everyone always says you got nice figure but they don’t see me naked. NOT only have I the ugliest flabby stretched marked stomach, due to having children. I am losing the love of a man because of this. My husband’s hated it when it came to buying me sexy undies. I would wear them but each one of them would lose their erection. Do I get in debt to have a tummy tuck in this country or go abroad to have it done but still get in debt though? I work full time and thinking of getting a weekend job too. I cry most nights. I have spoken to my doctor about it but he just dismissed it. Please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): I say get the tummy tuck, but do it in the USA. I hated my figure after I had kids, so I know how you feel. The problem is not your figure, but like CaringGuy said, you are choosing lousy men because you feel that is all you deserve. If you get the surgery, you will feel differently about your figure and feel more confident that a good looking guy (in your eyes) would want you and would stay with you, that will make all the difference in the world.
It is an illusion, but it works well...or I should say, it did work well for me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): The man may have lost his erection due to Erectile Dysfunction. I am sure these three men did not have perfect bodies as no one does. Not even Super Models. I agree with Caring Guy! I would start by working out and firming up , it is the hard way to approach this but helps to bring the inner beauty outward. I personally would not get a tummy tuck, because they are dangerous and you cannot afford it. It might be a temporary high, but will not solve your problems. I know plenty of people that are gorgeous and miserable and have trouble with men.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 November 2009):
This isn't about anything other than confidence. If you're not confident, then you won't be happy no matter what you have done. I think it's more likely that your lack of confidence has made you pick guys that just aren't quite worth it. Absolutely don't go abroad for any surgery because it could be unsafe. And don't get into debt, or you'll soon find that you're stressing out about that as well. A good man will care about you because you ARE you. If you're feeling depressed at all, then you must tell someone. I think you need to address your serious lack of confidence rather then have surgery. Even if you have surgery, are you really going to be happy?
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