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male
age
41-50,
*swlee
writes:I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 8 months now and we get along great. We share similar values, we have great conversations and our hobbies are very compatible, but there's one thing about our relationship that's bothering me more and more as time goes on, we're never intimate. At all.No kisses, cuddling, holding hands, nada. She seems unwilling(or afraid?) to take our relationship to the next step, citing that she feels less stressed out with a platonic-ish relationship and likes the mental type of love that we share right now.This makes me think sometimes that she's not really interested in me at all and that she just wants companionship...but she also talks about the possibility of rooming together and even getting married someday (She's 27 right now)...which really confuses me as to how I am supposed to think.Do you think that this is something that time will eventually solve and that I just need to give her some more time? Or...? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Everyone's sexual libido differs, some people like to have it 5 times a day where others are happy to have it once a week. Some people can live together for companionship and aren't interested in having sex at all. You need to ask her why she doesn't seem interested in you sexually. Maybe it's your intelligence she loves, maybe just the companionship but it could be deeper rooted. She may have been raped or abused as a child. It may be she had a really bad experience in a previous relationship or it may be she's still a virgin and is just terrified to go there because she doesn't know what to do. She may think you won't want to be with her if you found out she was inexperienced or it may be she just isn't a sexual person. It could be any of these things or something totally different. The only way you'll get to the bottom of it is to ASK HER!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): straight up bro women are on a different sexual peak clock then men when were 18 we want it all the time women peak at around 30-40 its odd that shes 27 and is so dettached? was she hurt in a previous realtionship? if not shes probably getting it from somewhere else bro.
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