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writes:my boyfriend keeps asking who i love more me or my best friend ... i never know what to say but it makes me really angry that he asks that type of questionnext time he askes what shall i say ? i want to get the message across that its a stupi question
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reader, AvocadoMilkTea +, writes (11 July 2006):
 To keep this simple, you can simply tell him that your love for him is different than your love for your best friend. There is no measurement of love here. It simply is a connection of minds, emotions, and spiritual lines. If he still doesn't understand that, I would highly suggest you find yourself someone more mature.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Next time he asks you should tell him that...
... you get really angry when asked that kind of question.
However, before you say that, have a think about WHY it makes you really angry. Think about it so that you can give him a good explanation. He'll want to know why.
So, why does it make you really angry?
Hopefully, once he understands that you don't like the question, and once he understands why, he'll stop asking it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): First off, is this question really stupid as it is coming from one you love and chose to be with, your boyfriend-I think you meant to say that you don't understand it and don't know why he would ask such a thing.
Is this best friend a male? How do you treat the best friend and how do you treat your boyfriend?
I think he wants some reassurance from you and he may just want to know an answer.
There are varying degrees of love.
How can you not know what to say? You chose him to be your boyfriend because you had a love for him.
Do you love your bestfriend like you would a family member? Do you love your boyfriend like he could be "THE ONE"?
What feelings do you have for your boyfriend?
I think saying that you love them both in different ways as they both have different "places" in your life would be a good start. Also tell him I chose to be with you and list all the things about him that make you smile.
It is a valid question; all he wants is validation- this isn't stupid to want or expect from someone he cares about.
I hope this serves as some sort of guide for you.
Take care.
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