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writes: I am a 14yr old girl. I have a prolem where i lie to much, but i can't controll it. I'm getting help for it tho. But one of my colsets friends found out that i lied to them and they don't want anything to do with me anymore. What should i do? I really like this person!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (11 July 2006):
 You should explain to your friend that you have a condition that means you cannot help what is happening to you. If they are mature they should understand but don't expect them to believe you in the future. I hope that you are getting effective treatment for this as you are a brave young lady for admitting such a disorder. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): Understanding of what a compulsive liar is about would do wonders for you and the many people you have in your life and have hurt with your lies.
When someone is left to lie again and again, it becomes apart of who they are and how they govern themselves. It is like an addiction only this doesn't chemically change you so you are dependant on it- it just means that you need to re-teach yourself on how to be honest. You have a tough road ahead of you. Accountability for ones words and actions is the best way to be in this life and you are now finding out why this is essential.
I want to commend you on having the courage to correct the wrongs; by telling the truth. Not too many people can do this so congratulations.
It is a normal response when you have been hurt from someone you loved and trusted to want to get away from them and the pain.
It would depend on the severity of your lying to this person. Being that I am an optimistic on most things; if this person is capable of forgiveness then they will be able to overcome this and be prepared to be in your life.
Lying to someone gives them a false sense of security.
Trust is essential in all forms of relationships. If you build a foundation on lying- the relationship is set up to fall apart. With the trust is respect.
By lying to the other person, you show them that you do not respect them or trust them and in return - you get what you give.
These are the consequences of your lying. This may seem insensitive but what you have done for so long is not right but forgiveable. It is up to the ones you have hurt to decide if they will forgive you.
I think you are a very brave young woman and in being young; you have time to "cure" this lying disease you have plagued yourself with.
I am glad you have help and I know you are able to overcome this trial in your young life.
The willingness to change for the better is a gift you have and how fortunate are you?
*hugs*
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