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41-50,
*mmajade
writes:I'm not even sure where to start...I met this guy about a month ago, we hit it off really well and had a kind of whirl wind for the past 4 weeks. Everything was going great, until 4 days ago.I have been sinlge for a year before I met this guy. My ex and I had a messy break up and I needed a long time to get over him. I refused to date until I knew I wasn't on re-bound. I had a few problems with my ex this week, he "helped himself" to a lot of money from my bank account using my online banking details, and as a result I was stressed, stuck for money (my rent was due) and I had a melt down. Tears, shouting down the phone etc. It wasn't pretty. My new guy was great, calmed me down and helped me get the matter sorted. (police, bank cals etc)Problem is, now he is backed away from me totally. He says he is over whelmed. He has also been single for a long while before he met me and I think this has spooked him.I've tried calling, I've offered to meet him to talk to him about this and I tried asking what the problem is. He wont tell me. He hasn't exactly cut all contact with me, but he also isn't being very responsive when he does call or email.I'm so confused what to do... he said we can meet on tuesday to talk... is he going to leave me? What can I do to fix this?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 May 2010):
He might, he might not. The best thing you can do is just give him space to think. He's obviously going to think over the weekend and will then meet you, so just continue speaking to him when he contacts, but don't hassle him or anything like that. See what he says on Tuesday. If he does end it, then don't chase after him. The reason is that if he's not here now for you, then he never will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): i wouldnt take this personally,its not you he cant be botherd with its the 'hassle',he hasnt known you for long,id wait for him to phone ect and wouldnt contact him,hes probably having some thinking time to see if youre worth the hassle so they say.i know its hard not to contact someone but just give him a bit of space and i bet he calls,be patient he might need a week or two,if you havent heard anything in two weeks then phone him
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