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writes:HiBeen with a new partner for quite a few months now, everything is going very well.Except in the area of her orgasm, she never orgasms through normal sex, though this isn't the first partner I've had like this (about half my previous partners didn't orgasm through intercourse) so I assume it's not uncommonHowever previous partners have always been able to orgasm easily with oral, with my new partner she does orgasm through oral, but it takes a lot of time, buildup and patience. Also after orgasm she is a 'do not touch' zone for a very long time after. Finally, if I give her oral say twice in the same day or two or three days on the trot, she seems to desensitise and it takes forever the third or fourth time.We are pretty open about it all, and I've always said that if my technique is not her cup of tea my ego would stand being told and she said she loves it all but has never been the type able to have lots of orgasms. But it's got me very puzzled as previous partners have never been like this, obviously I love her and want her to enjoy lovemaking as much as I do.Anyway question is, is anyone else like this?. Or any ideas how I can give her more orgasms without making her tender?. I've tried gently stimulating her g-spot when she is aroused instead, but she finds that 'too much' and doesn't really like it.I should add, she doesn't see any problems in this area, we cuddle, kiss lots, make love lots and in her words 'she loves to feel me inside her whether she comes or not'But obviously, I want to make things better for her... and find it quite fustrating that in a typical weekend together, I will orgasm 5 or 6 times, whereas she will have only 2 or 3. Yes I know it's not all about orgasm!, but I'd still like to be able to give her more.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): EVERY woman is different. Some women can have one orgasm, some can have twenty. This new girl of yours is not your ex, so you should stop expecting her to react as if she were.
She's not shy, and obviously is telling you what she wants, just listen to her and everything'll be fine.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Hi. I can relate to your situation, I am pretty much the same, cant have more than 2 orgasms per day, I only had 3 once or twice in my whole life. My boyfriend keeps on pestering me about his technique, to tell him what is it that he is doing wrong - i dont think he does anything wrong, I am a very sensitive person and I need to fantasise about something sexy while he is down there. Even a slight noise or light can put me off if I am not turned on so much. And it takes me a while too, sometimes when I am on my own I can orgasm within 5 minutes, but this is rare, mostly it is someting like 15-20 minutes. Heheheh, the other day my boyfriend has spent about 40 minutes down there before I realised that he was getting tired, so that got me turned off and I told him to stop.
I suggest that you have sex before you go down on her, or lots of kisses and foreplay, that will turn her on and will make her cum faster, thats what I do anyway. Dont worry, I am sure there plenty of other people in similar position.
Best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): I think this woman will take you to a new level of loving. Orgams feel great, but we get turned on with emotions too, and not just body stimulation. She's made it clear you're a great lover, now let her show you some things...it might be a touch, look, conversation, doing something for you, the whole package! ;)
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