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writes:Hello, i want to share my awful experience with you so that way hopefully I can stop someone making the same mistake.My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, we didnt date for long and he didnt even seem that into me but i was stupidly in love with him. I mean REALLY in love. I live abroad and after we split I went home for 2 months. In the time i was away he contacted me for my bday and then we kept in touch. Nothing about the relationship was mentioned. Then i asked him to catch up for a drink when i returned to his country. He ended up asking me back to his place and we had sex. When i left in the morning he said he would call me or for me to call him so we could talk. I thought oh good he must want to discuss the relationship.I asked him to catch up the following weekend and he didnt reply until 6 hours later (it was 12am by this time). He said he was busy for the next week and for him to let me know when he is free (sounds like a brush off doesnt it). Well its been a week and no contact from him. I was so very upset when we broke up, i even told him i loved him. And because of this i thought there is no way he would just use me for one night, he couldnt be that cold. He knows i get attached easily. I feel so STUPID and DEGRADED. My self-esteem is completely shattered. I feel so worthless. I am so annoyed with myself, i am 29 and should not be making these mistakes. Another thing is that sleeping with him brought back feelings but my logical mind tells me he's an asshole but my heart is in pain.So a lesson to other girls out there, dont ever sleep with your ex unless they have stipulated they want to get back together. Having sex does not mean they want you back :(
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (29 June 2011):
Actually you're not the only one to have experienced this. My ex dumped me for another girl then started flirting with me again over a year later,and was dissing his girlfriend. I thought maybe he wants to get back but all he wanted was sex from me. Imagine he broke my virginity after we had broken up already. We had sex several times after that but it was clear he wanted nothing more than that, after all, he didnt break up with his girlfriend. I let him use me coz i was so helplessly inlove with him and hoped that things would work out but they didnt. I have another guy now who literally worships me.
So cheer up, life goes on, things will work out just fine!
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reader, Sad Lonely Girl  +, writes (22 June 2011):
You poor girl I am so sorry that this happened to you
Men can be so mean and hurtful but as the others said lesson learnt the hard way
Smile, Move forward, and whatever you do do it with confidence
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Dont beat yourself up over it. This guy is a total asshole who got what he wanted by manipulating you. Like UKLIFECOACH says, youve learnt a very valuable lesson here. DUMP him, move on, find another guy. Trust me the right one wont mind that this happened between you and your ex. He'd probably wanna beat him up. (atleast in my experience)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Hey,
Dont beat yourself up. You learnt a very valuable lesson.
UKLifeCoach
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