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writes:Hi i'm a girl who has never had a boyfriend and i don't know why ? I mean i have talked to guys before but i only had one guy friend and he is gay . anyway my dilemma is my height . I am 4'9 and my aunt who i hate so much keeps asking my parents why don't i have a man she is 23 years old , a virgin i'm guessing and she looks like a ten year old . my parents defend me by saying that she will have a man and did doesn't matter how she looks . there are guys looking for her but in the wrong places . my aunt will ask them the same question each time she has a visit . she has been doing it since i turned 18. it would be nice to have some body and maybe my mother is right about guys looking in the wrong place and yes i am a virgin. I wish my aunt would leave me alone. Even though i am short i wish i had a guy who would like me for who i am . advice anybody. do guys really like short girls ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I think guys love short women. I have a cousin who's your height and she has never had problems having boyfriends. In fact I don't remember her being lonely. She is not very attractive but is her self esteem that attracts men. She is also involved in activities and with friends. That helps to build relationships that eventually could become something else.
I understand you perfectly. I had not one aunt but a whole bunch of aunts and uncles and grandparents secretly wondering if I was a lesbian or was it 'my constant bad mood' that kept me boyfriendless. I had my first when I turned 27 and I've had a life filled with guys interested in me and I'm pretty but had a low men I.Q.
It's hard but you have to ignore her and never get yourself involved with someone for the wrong reasons. While you wait for Mr. Right you have to get ready. Develop your personality, know your talents and strengths. That way you can not only become more secure of yourself but more interesting to men because you have things going on for you and that's what attract men.
Forget about your height God made you with a purpose in life and he also made someone to fit you perfectly.
Get the perfect haircut for the shape of your face, wear high heels, put on make up, dress sexier and get out there.
Focus on loving yourself first because if you don't you'll end up attracting insecure men just like you and the relaionship will not be a good one.
Blessings!
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 December 2007):
 I'm a guy, and if the girl was nice and fund to be around, hight wouldn't be an issue.
With that being said. I'm 36 years old. I've been married, have four children, but I don't have a girl. I don't because it's a choice. Being with someone and dating is a choice not an obligation. I'm a single parent, I raise my children, but I have made the choice to remain single.
Let me tell you something about guys and where they look. If you go to a bar and find a guy, more than likely it will be short lived and he may just want sex.
What I have found over the years is the good guys for you, the real keepers may not be leaving their home with the intent of finding a girl to be with. The reason is they are all ready strong people, content with where they are and don't make looking for a girl a big priority. But if they find something they like, and want to be around they may be willing to add someone special to their life. These make the best relationships because they wouldn't be too needy, overly attached, or seeking a relationship to fill a void and seeking company for the wrong reason.
Be proud of yourself and who you are. Don't let the aunt bother you. tell her to get a life and stop butting into yours.
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reader, chalotte  +, writes (18 December 2007):
If your a virgin then you should virgin coz it's important...do you know that Tongan guys are dying to be with a virgin girl..it's guide popular...nway you will have a boyfriend later, just wait and see it will be the best boyfriend ever, trust me...about your aunt she's very old fashion maybe you should try to convince her or kill her(just joking) I wish you'll have a boyfriend soon...
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 It sounds like your aunt is the problem. She's knocked your confidence very badly, and confidence is very attractive (no matter what sex you are). You need to boost your confidence, I'd bet anything your lack of boyfriends has nothing to do with your appearance or height.
Treat yourself to a new outfit, have your hair cut and coloured, spend time going out with friends and have fun, don't spend life obsessing over men, you will find a boyfriend when the time is right.
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