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writes: I've never had a serious boyfriend before and I am not sexually experienced at all. I'm 19 years old and I have never even given head. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now & he knows my sexual history and is perfectly okay with that. He makes me feel comfortable and I'm crazy about him. I can't stop talking and thinking about him and he is the hottest guy I have ever been with....although when we are intimate I cannot get wet enough down there. Isn't that a bad thing? I'm also extremely tight and it makes it very difficult to enjoy anything. I'm still a virgin and I'm waiting until our relationship grows even more before we have sex. Only once have I enjoyed having dry sex with him. Is there anything I can do to make it better? I feel like there is something wrong with me and I'm embarrased. I'm new to all of this so maybe it's perfectly normal....help please
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, lacey, writes (7 March 2005): don't worry! I would love to have a partner with no experience because I then wouldn't get jealous of who they had been with in the past or whether it was better with them than me. I'm sure that he will be happy with the thought of him being the first. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2005): Hi,You remind me of my wife, who was much like you at the beginning of our relationship. She too wanted to hold off with intercourse, but we did everything short of that for a long while. We eventually did go all the way when she decided that she was ready.If your boyfriend is not pressuring you, then relax. It sounds to me that you are concerned with him "judging" you, or you feel that your body is reacting "abnormally" despite your excitement and stimulation. Be patient with yourself - I have a feeling that you don't want to disappoint and lose this great guy, but yet you are still a bit uptight since you wish to maintain your virginity. If you really wish to break the ice, show him what feels good to you by guiding his hand on you, or tell him that you want to show him what feels good to you and do it yourself while he watches. If you're into it, ask him to play with himself while he watches you. I guarantee he will love this, but it will take some courage on your part to suggest this activity.If I had the idea to do this with my first girlfriend when I was your age, it would have loosened me up. For the longest time I could not (or would not) allow myself to let go and cum (Catholic School?), and she spent hours trying her hardest with her hand and mouth. Eventually I was able to give into the good feelings and let myself go, much to her shock, but perhaps if I had shown her what I liked and made myself let go while she watched, I would have relaxed a bit sooner. Best wishes in your relationship!
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