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writes:I have been in a relationship for about a year and half, and everything is perfect between my boyfriend and I. However, we have one problem we live in two different countries. I want him to move to my place, but he wants me to move to his side because he states he can not leave his parents. However, I cannot move either because I have invested everything in building my life here. What should I do?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Well you have a couple of options:
1. Do nothing and it will remain a long distance relationship
2. One of you has to compromise and give in, if you really loved each other enough then one of you would give up your current life to build a new one with your partner
3. Split up if neither of you are willing to compromise and if you dont want to do the long distance thing forever
Generally, if your love for each other is strong enough then you would move to be with each other and you would know that you would be building a new life together so whatever you are leaving behind is not so important.
But if your current life holds priority over your boyfriend, and his current life holds priority over you - then you are simply not right for each other and dont have enough invested into the relationship to make it work.
From the sounds of things you are both young and just starting out in life, you are happy where you are and neither of you wants to leave therefore this relationship is not good enough to take you away from what you have at the moment. So probably best to end it and find someone who lives close to you, so you can have a boyfriend AND a life in your current town/city.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, mysticpurple +, writes (10 December 2010):
hi there
If theres something stopping you from moving to be with your boyfriend... then are you not in the wrong relationship?
If you trully loved him you would move to the moon to be with him and start a new life there :)
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