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writes:My neighbour converted one of the bedrooms in his house into a bathroom. Unfortunately, it happens to be the one the other side of my bedroom wall and for months now he has been coughing incessantly but tends to go into the bathroom to do it. This particularly happens when he gets up which is long before I do. He doesn't cough in his sleep, but as soon as he does it is non-stop for about 20 minutes which wakes me up and then I can't get back to sleep again. Of course, it's even worse at weekends when I want a lie-in.I don't know what to do. I mean he can't help it, but I can't believe he would be so stupid as to convert a bedroom into a bathroom that is the otherside of a dividing wall particularly when he extended his house to provide extra bedrooms, one of which could have been a bathroom meaning that it would have been totally away from the dividing wall.My bed is against the dividing wall, but unfortunately my room is so small that it is the only place it can go. The toilet cistern is the other side of the wall where my bed is so I get woken up every time he uses the toilet, and every time he flushes it, also whenever he turns the light on and off but particularly when he coughs. It drives me to distraction. Oh, and to top it all he installed the shower along that wall too! I have taken to banging on the wall whenever he coughs for ages in the hope that he might take the hint.This is affecting my work and in particular my relationships as I'm so exhausted it's making me cranky. My hackles rise whenever I hear the noise now. In fact, I'm sure his coughing is affecting me more that it is him because his sleep isn't being affected by it! Unfortunately, my parents just don't appreciate what I'm going through as they are nowhere near the noise. I 've tried using earplugs but that didn't work. I've tried everything.I sympathise with his condition, but I just can't understand why someone would be so inconsiderate. I don't know what to do. I mean how can you tell someone to stop coughing? I can't afford to move elsewhere and I think why should I - I've been in this house all my life.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 I'm sorry you are having difficulty sleeping, but your neighbor has done nothing wrong. It's not like he is blaring music at night. And he is entitled to convert a bedroom into a bathroom if he pleases. It sounds like you are a light sleeper who is easily woken up by noise. The best thing you can do is soundproof your room. Have you looked into that yet?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Well im afraid there is not a lot you can do about this, at the end of the day if you chose to life on a house that is joined to another then you are going to expect to hear these kinds of noises there is not a lot you can do here, especially if ear plugs havent worked for you then im not sure what to suggest here to help you. why dont you knock on his door and have a chat with him? Be friendly and just tell him how much this is affecting you, remember just keep being friendly and apologise to him for having to knock on his door but just tell him you are not sure what else you can do, maybe he might go to another part of the house to cough then when he knows that it is upsetting you this much.
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