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writes:Thank you to anyone who helps here. My boyfriend and I broke up because he lost interest, I think. but to spare my feelings he suggested that we remain friends. I was gutted and still pretty hurt. There has been no contact for a couple of months but I called him on his cell about a work related manner. I got his message machine but he called me right back. He sounded courteous but guarded. He is in the military and he had that military way about him with me. He is not distant with others like this....just with me. Two guestions. Why was he like this and how do I get over him once and for all. It is not happening. I am not meeting guys or the right guys to help me move on. Hopefully there is someone who might have an idea of what to do.
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reader, xoWhEnYourArOuNdxo  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 I went through the same issue with a boy last summer. I had the HARDEST time getting over him. I'm only 15 so I don't have that much experiance on relationships and such, but I will tell you that the last thing you want to do is call him. You should try to take a break from him, eventually you'll get over him and things will turn around for you. It may be hard, but it's the only one that's ever really worked for me so i'm sure it'll work for you. Good luck!
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reader, gothghen +, writes (22 August 2007):
 hi.. well, you said that the his in the military right now.. and we all know that once you get in the military, and come out, you are gonna be way different.. i know alot of dude's like that trust me., well.? your question was that why is he acting like that.? maybe b'coz he cant focus, or he knows that he wont be able to give you time.. and it'll be way unfair to you, especilly knowing your the girlm its not right making a girl wait.. right.? knowing she's waiting for nothing.. if you love your man., respect whatever decisions he make., you said he lost intrest in you.? well, by the time you noticed that he was losing intrest on you, it was your part to make the intrest come back., do stuff that will surprise him.. you even said he only keeps his distance from you, did you try asking him why.? its better keeping away from you, knowing the reason., not by just leaving ypou hanging.. you know what yopu should do./ talk to him.. ask him questions.. make a closure, if he doesnt wanna talk to you, explain to him that it'll be a big help for the both of you. and if you wanna be friends, tell him., just dont get over board, coz guys dont like that.
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