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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi DearCupid, I am asking this question with regards to someone I really like but I'm not sure what her point of view is of everything...If she is single, attracted to me, cares about me, and knows that I really care about her, what would stop her from wanting to be with me?The first handful of months I knew her I was sure that she had an interest in me. I had never been so confident about anything like that.Attraction is NOT an issue. She knows I'm a genuine guy with lots of good qualities...she knows a ton about me...we work together!The responses I get will be, "ask her out!"...I know about that, and in a way I already have...I'm pretty sure she knows that I have feelings for her. I've been waiting for some signal from her that would indicate that she would like to be with me. Because of our unique work situation, it is difficult for me to "lay it all out on the table."To summarize:1. I really like this girl (love)2. I think she had interest first...before I did (so this isn't some 1-sided situation)3. Attraction is definitely there4. I believe she cares about me...she has ZERO doubt that I genuinely care about her5. We are both single...in the year plus we have known each other neither us have even been on a date! We are both in our twenties.Thoughts? What would be a reason for her to avoid us taking a step together? Reply to this Question
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Make a move man, stop wondering, there's no other way to find out. Ask her out, simple! Even if she refures, it's no big deal. I once asked a collegue out, she politely declined and ever since we still talk and joke in a flirty way. Ask her out and please tell us what happened. Best wishes!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 perhaps said work situation that prevents you as well from laying it out on the table
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 hi
you ask us what would HER reasons be for not making a move, have you asked yourself what YOUR reasons are for not making a move??
whatever your reasons are, hers are probably very similar! are you only seeing her in work? ask her out somewhere, even just as a friend and then see what happens when you are both more relaxed outside of the work environment
xx
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Two things spring to mind.
You could be in the friend zone...
or she could be waiting for you to make a move. Maybe she's already given you subtle signals and you just haven't picked up on them?
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