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writes:I think I possibly need help, but I don't really know how to go about it.I'm only fifteen- going on sixteen, soon, and I've got this real strange attraction to older menAnything up from twenty, but never older than forty? It's sorta weird... it IS weird, but it's just something I do now.I actively seek out, older men that I think I could persuade to be with me, usually sexually- it doesn't tend to be emotional, because that tends to end up hurting, yano?I don't really understand what kind of complex I have, but I've never felt anything for someone my own age- I've been with a few boys my age, but it felt like nothing? Maybe I'm just not finding the right boys, but irrevocably I always end up turning to older men instead.Anyways, I've met a man about 30 years old, I think, and I'm really starting to get into him- but to be honest I think it's weird and my friends all think it's weird and gossip about it behind my back.So, in short, I'd like to know what kind of help there is available, and how to get help without getting any current or previous men in trouble?Anybody gotta clue?
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reader, gdas2hearts  +, writes (23 March 2011):
I'm on the same boat as you bro. I tried dating someone my age (15-17 yrs) i just felt...really weird and awkward yno?older guys just know what to do, not even sexually, but emotionally as well! you're gonna be talked about for sure, i know I was, but it's better than lying to yourself :)
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reader, teencrushoffender +, writes (19 March 2011):
 What you are describing is perfectly normal as I have a preference towards older men myself but I don't take action towards it. I want to complete my education first then I will be free to get involved.I feel that I need an older boy as us girls mature earlier than them but I wouldn't be serious about someone over the age of 20 at the moment.I currently am in an on/off relationship with someone 18 and he's not pressuring me which could be an issue with a girl at a vulnerable age as mine and yours.I even find myself liking a lot older celebrities probably because I know there is a 100% chance nothing will happen which allows me to fantasise.Much love to Philip Glenister,Chris Noth and Will Ash.I would be careful with someone of 30 years but as long as you're happy, age is no object.Good Luck in Love.
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reader, Desiray. +, writes (2 March 2011):
Desiray. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionah, what a lovely answer :P
thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): firstly it's not weird in the slightest, most girls do like guys older than themselves its commonly done. example being myself, i am too currently with an older guy i'm 17 and he is 24 we met at work and really hit it of so now we are together and have been for a year and a bit now, i have always liked older me because i find that boys around my own age are to immature; i don't know about you. my last boyfriend was again older than me too he was 21 and i was 15 soo i guess we are just much more mature than the boys our own ages and its good to be different ;) good luck with your new man! x
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reader, ..  +, writes (1 March 2011):
Well, usually girls have feelings like this, perhaps because older men have more experience in the relationship department. It's not really appropriate to engage in anything like this at your age, but hell, everyone has their fancies. I think, go to parties, broaden your circle of friends and I'm sure you'll find other more age-appropriate candidates of your attention.
Also, don't despair. Most girls grow out of this. I know I did. ;)
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