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writes:Alright, I'm in quite a pickly right now. It's the same old I want my ex girlfriend back story. This one is complicated and long so I'll do my best to keep it in detail and as short as possible.So yeah, my ex-gf and I dated for 2 years and 3 months. We had a ton of good times but we also fought quite a bit. (she is 18 and I'm 20) But yeah, things around the end of the relationship started getting a little stale. We kind of lost that spark, and this is pretty much when college was starting for her. We weren't getting to see each other as much, so we kind of had a mutual agreement to take a break. School for both of us was just keeping us busy. And We go to different schools My school is a 30 minute drive and just to see her would be another 40 minutes drive so seeing each other became really hard. I felt like it would have been too stressful to keep a relationship with working a job and traveling distances. So that's kind of why we took the break. About a week after we started taking it she acted like she wanted to take me back. But then like a dumbass I said no it's for the best. I felt it was unfair that she wouldn't be able to date anyone else while we couldn't see each other. But then she actually did start dating someone else. And then I realized how selfish I really was and I wanted her back so bad. I realized I didn't want to take a ****ing break at all. But so she was dating this guy for about a month and for about half of that month I pleaded for her to take me back. I would call and text her during the night and it really did annoy her but then I stopped and just started to call her during the day but then I got to the point where I only called her like once a day, and used the internet to chat. And I started making occasional trips to go see her and I would buy her food and just gifts that don't say "take me back".So after a month that guy broke up with her. And she felt pretty heartbroken. But now she's over him and it's only been like a month and a half. So we started talking some more, and thing's seems like they were going back to the way they used to be. No longer when I spoke to her on the phone was it a "your not my first priority anymore, I kind of don't have time to talk to you" but it was that sweet voice I use to hear. So I thought I was doing good, until the next time I talked to her it sounded like she went the oppisite way and she was beginning to push me away it sounded like. So I worried and I went back into desperate guy mode. And so we still kept on talking and she started saying stuff like "Oh we should go do this this and this together sometime" and I thought she meant like, just me and her but she meant with a group of friends. And when she told me that, I kind of got pissed at her because it lead me to falso hopes. Which I think made her mad, so now I haven't really talked to her since then, but the last thing she said was that she was moving on and I need to see that. IDK t's been a month and a half since our break up, We were hardcore up until college. I kind of ****ed things up here at the end. I want her back really bad. During this whole time it's not like I've just been sitting around moping, I've been getting out talkinf to other chicks and going on dates with them but I still want her back. How can I make her come back? I can go into more detail if someone has more questions.
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 Ok first things first. Ask yourself why do you want her back?
Is it because of the way she makes you feel?
Or is it because you dont like to see her with anyone else.
The distance between you is gonna be a problem because you say that that is one of the reasons you broke up in the first place so you ne dto decide if this is the girl you want are you willing to travel to see her. I find that if you relly love and care for someone you would try and move the earth for them.
Set your cards out straight on a table and say to her exactly how you feel dn that you wish to give the relationship another try, Say you are willing to do this and that. But only if you mean it.
You should get your answer from this, she may ask to think about it respect that. It must be hard for both of you so take her feelings into account and also that is has not so long ago split from someone else to.
I wish you all the best and i hope thi shelps.
Peaches
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