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writes: I'm dating a girl, and I just don't know how to break up with her. She is nice and sweet, but I don't want to break her heart. If possible I want to remain her friend. Remember we are both girls here. Now the reason I want to break up with her is our relationship is not open and we don't like other people to know we are dating, so we can't hold hands or kiss. Both her and my parent don't even know we are dating, much less that I'm Bi! There is a guy I have been talking too and he is really nice. He has already confessed that he likes me, and I really like him. But I just can't find a way to break up with my girlfriend. I really want to date him but I don't know what to do! Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both! This advice helps he a ton. I am confident in knowing what the right thing to do is. Yes I will still break up with her, but I'll wait on the dating thing for a while....maybe a long while. I'll probably focus on my studies and enjoy life. And again thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2014): It is better to be honest and breakup with her, than be seeing the other guy in secret. That's being sneaky.
You're very young to be dating, so rules are pretty flexible.
Learn to be fair, honest, and treat people the way you want to be treated. You don't want anyone to lie to you, or play around behind your back. So don't do that yourself.
There is no way to break-up and not hurt feelings. You will learn how that feels one day when it happens to you.
You don't have to use words to lie, but your actions lie. The truth is, you like someone else and you are already talking to him. You are hiding it from her, because you don't want her to be angry and sad.
If you are telling him you like him already, that means you are cheating too. You have to breakup first to make it right. So go over to her house. Tell her how sorry you are, but you don't want to be her girlfriend anymore. You still want to be her friend. She will deal with it from there.
You have a lot to learn, but that will come as you get much older. You will hurt her feelings by breaking-up with her, but she will get over you quicker than you might think.
Jumping from one person and on to the next isn't a good thing. If you don't want anyone to think you're a bad person, you shouldn't do that. That's what you call a player. At your age, dating is more SAYING someone is your bf or gf; than actually being your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Because you don't just breakup the minute you like someone else better.
You're just a kid, so you can't really say you're even really dating. You're just practicing and learning how to have future relationships. Most of us adults are still figuring it out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 August 2014):
 Call her and talk to her.
Don't jump from person to person though. And never start dating a person before you have PROPERLY ended it with the current one.
If you can't END a relationship, do you think you are actually mature enough to BE in one? And yes, I know breaking up is pretty hard and nerve wracking, but don't you think it would break her heart more so to know that YOU rather be with someone else and don't even bother telling her?
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