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writes:I have a problem because i'm rather inexperienced in this issue. My boyfriend lives overseas, and his birthday is coming up. I want to send him something personal. So pictures. But i don't know what the pictures should be of, or poses, like i don't want to go over the top and stuff, but i don't want to undermine it either. I've never sent pictures to a boyfriend as like a pressent. So i want to make it special. I don't think you need to be naked to be seen as sexy or alluring, but i think i will do some. I don't know, like poses? Ideas? Thoughts?I mean does this make me into a slut or something?I totally trust him on this, and i know its a big deal and i have my trust issues for reasons, but he woudln't share them around.All opinions are helpful, andif you think this is a bad idea, than give me an alternative to send as a gift, and not something you can buy hmmk thankyou for reading everyone :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): hmm ok, this is a rather tough question actually, take a moment to contemplate for a bit. how close are you two, do you feel you can trust him? giving pictures of a more personal nature can be rather scary, especially nowadays when things can be spread online like a wildfire. you should ask him for something in return, maybe some pictures or something like that. what's good for the goose is good for the gander. and how long distance are we talking about? if in a neighboring country, then maybe a visit would be better. if distance is greater, then perhaps the pictures would be a good idea, seeing as you would probably not be able to see each other much. depending how far it is between you, there is probably some sexual tension going on between the two of you, the pictures might alleviate some of the tension if distance makes it too far to visit. i have sent pictures of myself to my boyfriend (he lives in same city as me though), and he was very appreciative lol. oh and also, abby your answer isn't really that surprising. if you are 15 you shouldn't be doing anything sexual anyway, here you would be considered "jailbait" since you are illegal to be sexually intimate with. even "risque" pictures of you would be considered childpornography here. i thought i had seen your name in answers before and i found it. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-slept-with-my-dads-best-friend.html. your answers clearly reflect your age, but the differences in a relationship being a 15 year old girl and an 18-21 year old woman has to be a rather strong contrast. in those 3-6 years separating you from the poster, emotional life develops alot, not sure it would be emotionally healthy if the poster should follow advices from someone that much younger than herself. if aimed at another 15-16 year old her advice sounds good though. though i hope my answer helps you and that he likes your present to him, whether it be some naked or pinup style pictures, or something he has expressed a wish for. well this is merely my advice, i'm sure you'll come to a decision on your own that will be beneficial to you as well as to your relationship, invite us to your anniversary lol.
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reader, the_hidden_key +, writes (1 December 2010):
the_hidden_key is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to all of you that answered!
i really appreciate it and it really gave me the direction of what to and i'm def not doing this :)
sometiems you just need someoen elese to make things clear for you even if you half know yourself
thanks and take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): don't send him dirty pictures! it's a dangerous idea! you could send him some non-dirty pictures of memories you two had together, you could make a movie, you could send him some unique inside joke item. there are lots of things you could send while dressed :)
Abby 15
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 It's a good idea to keep your clothes on...Nude pictures are a bad idea, and in the wrong hands they can leak out onto the internet for all to see. Let's not take that risk. I say go for the pin-up, burlesque look. That is a very sexy, a little revealing, but tasteful look. Done by a professional photographer, that would be a very nice gift he can display on his nightstand.
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