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writes:I met a single man(in this 30's) last year from canada and we have been in contact for 1 year now. We only met once and had a great time and chemistry and everything(did not do anything with him at all, I'm more respectable). So, now he emails me that he isn't REALLY looking for girlfriend and doesn't want to lead me on but he still wants to hang out with me and his friends when he comes to NY. His last email he sent last week, stated "he wants me to share a piece of that ass with him." Of course I was floored and offended by it and told him that. He immediately emailed me back the same day and apologized and said he took it to far and he thought i would have taken it as flattery and I called him a douchebag and he said no one has ever called him that before. Now what? do I accept him apology and move on?
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reader, doublejack +, writes (18 September 2012):
Yes, OP. Accept his apology and move on, as in lose his information and forget that you ever knew him. He made it quite clear, in a crude manner, what he was looking for - he wanted to come to NY, hang out with you and have sex. Nothing more and nothing less. You rebuked him so he apologized as clumsily as he came on to you.This guy is not worth knowing. That is the bottom line.Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): I agree with bronzed ^^
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 September 2012):
 Maybe he learned that piece of dialogue from a porn flick?
I agree with Ciar, turning yourself into a name-caller doesn't strengthen your position.
Accept the apology, give your own for sinking to his level, and end the relationship, is my advice. You now know his motivation and level of manners, is there any reason to continue a friendship? I think he was thinking that you were developing nicely into a potential friend with benefits, that's why he's been putting time into the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): Wait, so telling a girl you're not romantically involved with that you want to "share a piece of that ass" isn't a flattering compliment? Interesting, I guess my "listen up slut, shut up and take my cock" one isn't all that flattering either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): It's up to you OP, he's made it clear what he's interested in in a not so subtle way.
If you're interested in that too, then go ahead and accept his apology, if you're not then you have weigh what he brings to your life while knowing his underlying agenda is to some day "hit that".
OP what is it that you want from him and can he give it to you? That's what's important, don't settle for anything less than what you'd like from him. If it's a relationship, then he's useless to you, if it's a friendship then online that's probably fine but just how comfortable you'd be having a friend who wants to "tap that" is something you have to consider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): What?!! He actually said that? That was very rude! Who does he think he is asking for favors like that? Of course he wants to hang out with you having his free ride with sexual favours. You were right of calling him that,
He should learn some manners when he talks to a woman.
A flattery? With what, I wonder, that he wants to bang you?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 September 2012):
 He's not interested in a relationship and he was forthright and honest about that.
he told you what he had in mind and it's not what you want.
accept his apology.... and move on...
what other option would you like?
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reader, daletom +, writes (18 September 2012):
Forget him. Sounds like he's just looking for a vagina to masturbate into.
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (18 September 2012):
 I apologise for a start for not being an older man.But from what you've said it seems like he wanted a bit of a friends with benefits situation with you where he could get what he wants from you and still look around for other girls.Why would he think you'd take someone saying they don't want a relationship but he wants a piece of that fine ass as flattery surely that would make you feel more degraded.I think if he is truly sorry then accept it and i would try too move on.This all does depend on whether you want too... If you want to look for a relationship and obviously he has said he isn't looking for one then move on but if you're looking for just fun then keep in contact if that is what you require.I hope this helps.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (18 September 2012):
 As he's only interested in one thing and you clearly know yourself that you are far better, and worth more than that, I think you should move on. He has made his intentions clear.
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