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writes:There are times in our lives that we humans get into a depressing mode which resulted from us analyzing our downfalls and what we seem to lack. It seems to become apparent to us one way or another- and we start to questions ourselves, or abilities, and start to think about just how limited we are.This depressing mode can create an action- a rippling effect if you will, in our lives. And then after awhile we start to find more problems, become even more depressed, and/or take our anger out on ourselves, friends, family, or significant others.Some time ago, I was sitting on a bus across from this gorgeous lady sitting next to her friend. She had long straight hair, a pretty smile, and a glowing complexion. So I started strategizing on how I would approach. And then this very tall, strong guy walked over and started talking to her. After he left, she commented to her friend… “now that’s the type of guy I like…tall, muscular build.” Now I’m barely clipping 5’10 in height, and the guy that approached had to be at the very least 6’3- 6’4. On top of that, at the time, I had lost a lot of weight/muscle due to personal stress…so I came up a bit short in that category also.Needless to say, this caused a high amount of emotional stress. And though I didn’t approach her, I not only felt the sting of rejection, but a crushing blow to my self esteem. I became depressed. And it had an effect on me to the point where I couldn’t sleep much that night. The next day, I became a bit angry with my height and physical build. And when I noticed a guy walking past me outside that was a bit taller, I had a smug look on my face. This is the rippling effect that I was talking about. So clearly I knew that I couldn’t continue to feel that way. Therefore things had to change.If you find yourself in a similar predicament that I was in, where you became depressed, discouraged, or disappointed because you felt that you’re not blessed with the talent, money, height, or looks that others seem to have, then just know, there are always things that you can do….1. Don’t focus so much on your limitations…but look at all the positive things about yourself. If necessary create a list of 5-10 things that you like/love about yourself. Realize that you have something special to offer the world, to a woman/man, or relationship. You have to believe that you’re worthy of love, attention, or to have your own golden opportunities. You are in this world for a reason…realize how special and unique you are.2. Recall past positive experiences. Start thinking more on a positive level. Recall the times you’ve felt happy. Think about how you’ve attracted someone that you had interest in, was able to get positive feedback from that person, and you’ve managed to date or get into a relationship with him/her. Or think of some goal you’ve achieved (whether big or small) that had a huge impact on your life. Realize that you are still capable of doing incredible things- and attracting amazing people/opportunities. Do the best you can do, maximize your overall image and abilities- and just continue to believe, have faith, and consistently put in effort.3. Seek help. Don’t go through things alone. Seek out help from a positive family member, friend, or therapist that can help you through the tough times. Whether you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to listen… be sure to seek out someone that could be that person that’s there for you in your time of need.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (18 June 2012):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey Fumanic1! Thanks for sharing your positive experience after reading this article. I'm glad to know it was beneficial and inspirational for you.
Best Wishes!
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reader, Fumanic1  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 This is a very informative, positive and definitely confidence booster. Having read this article, I feel inspired in such a way that I have been getting positive responses from females. I can easily relate to women, even made new friends. Thanks Daniel.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (11 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're welcome. :^)
Best Wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): Thanks, Dan, I will try not to, and hope others remember it to!! :)
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (10 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for posting your comment anonymous reader. We all have down days, but I'm glad you found a way to be happy, content, and overall being able to love yourself.
You are unique- and you bring a special set of talents, gifts, and purpose to the world. Never forget that.
Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): I am of an age where I no longer feel the need to 'compete' with people...at the end of the day, there will ALWAYS be someone prettier, thinner, cleverer, has more money than me etc!! lol
I have realised I am 'unique', that is what makes me, errr ME! Acceptance of this is a huge leap forward for me and probably others. (Don't get me wrong, I still get my 'down' days occasinally), but on the whole, I accept the things that I can't change...love me as I am or errrr 'fuck off' basically is my motto!!! ;-)
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (4 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for sharing your story and providing your thoughts on the topic Ann123. And I'm glad you found a way to be happy. You, as well any other genuine person deserves to have someone special in your lives. And I believe it's always a possibility that it could happen.
I wish you the very best with everything! :^)
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reader, ann123 +, writes (3 November 2011):
Hi,I believe everyone goes throught at some point in their life. I know I did for example I was dating someone and he ask me over for a cook out and wanted me to invite my sister inlaw "brothers widow" to meet his friend. Do you know what he did? He was making passes at her and putting me down. I was infuriated and embarassed and so was she. That was the last time I saw him. What a jerk and he was told this. Anyway it did something to my self esteem for quite some time. What I did was to just try to stay busy with friends and family. Joined a swing dance class.Did not want to date anyone at this point. I was ask for my number several times but was not interested in dating yet.Just needed a ego boost.This went on for six months.I know now that I am attractive, a good person, kind of person that deserves a gentleman in her life and I like myself again. Now finally I accepted a date. What I a getting at is just try to stay busy with people or something you enjoy, sports, hobbies, try getting a new look, make over, cloths ect: A real girl or woman will take a nice clean cut guy over a jerky hunk anytime.
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