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writes:I will be turning 20 years old soon. And I have never had a boyfriend.I am kind of shy in showing my feelings towards guys, and I don't really have any guy friends. Actually, I have none at all. The first and only time I have ever made out with a guy is when I was drunk, and that didn't count. I don't know how to meet guys, and if I do meet them, how to get past the hi, my name is conversation and stay friends with them. All my friends can go and talk to guys and get numbers at the end of the night, and end up hanging out and getting party invites from them later. I feel like I am always the tag along, never being invited anywhere and always relying on my girl friends to get invited to places.I feel so empty sometimes, having no guy to text me asking me how my day is going, and no one to give me his sweatshirt on a cold night. I want nothing more than to have a boyfriend, and I just don't know how to get one. I can hold my own in a conversation, but I guess that no guy is interested in talking to me or getting to know me. Maybe I'm just not attractive enough? Is there something wrong with me?I feel so sad sometimes, and I am embarrassed whenever I go home and family members ask me if I have a guy in my life. I just want to run away and cry because yet again, I say no, I guess not right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks girls :) You both really have made me feel better. It's just weird sometimes when people are talking about their ex's and current boyfriends and then they ask me, and I'm like ummm yeah, no. It's a bit awkward because then they just say oh well then talk about something else. I guess I have been patient, and I am waiting for them to come to me. I guess I need more courage and just to realize that there will always be prettier more confident people than me. But who knows. Maybe there is a guy out there similar to me? I guess I shouldn't give up too soon :)
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (31 January 2011):
theres nothing wrong with you im nearly 26 and never had a bf at all i dont even go out to clubs or anything i am extremly shy i did go a disco once with my class and a massive row broke out between 2 girls so since then i just dont go out you will find your mr right eventually or he wil find you so dont worry
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reader, just a female  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 ok first of all there is nothing wrong with you! you just havent had a BF yet.
people on the outside would say this isnt a major problem, and i guess i am on the outside but the thing is i went through a period in my life that was just string of bad BFS and all i wanted was a goog one to ask me how my day was and cuddle up to me.
so i can see the problem here, so what to do about it?
well no one can garentee your going to get a boyfriend, but to help it along maybe try starting up conversation with guys when you go out? if you see someone you like just build up the courage to go up and talk to them.
its a big step i know, but otherwise you will go through your life waiting for guys to come to you...and maybe they wont. in life you will learn that there are always going to be people with more courage than you, that are prettier then you and more experienced, but its up to you to take your life into yuor own hands and make what you want to happen, happen.
one day you will find the right man for you you never know who he could be, you could be staring at him when you go to get shopping or maybe hes a childhood friend...you never know.
xxx
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