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writes:Are there any reasons why a person should never accept an ex's invitation for friendship? Why would my X want to be friends with me when he was the one who treated me so bad and left me on the side of the road? I still love him but what he did made me now also hate him? Is it possible for me to be his friend if not now but maybe later? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Don't be his friend now or in the future. It will never work. Whatever he did to hurt you was so forceful that it caused you to grow hate for him. Not good. I went down your road. I accepted my boyfriend's friendship, and he really changed for the better. We basically changed roles where he was head over heals in love with me but he had wounded me so bad that I wasn't able to get back what I had for him before he crushed me. LSS I slaughtered his heart leading him to alcoholism, drugs, unemployed and homeless. I didn't do it intentionally. He hurt me to hate him and the hate took over as hard as I fought it. I would leave him, because I knew what was happening but he wouldn't stay away which only made me punish him. Never be his friend. It's to late. He replaced your love for him with hate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Don't be his friend now or in the future. It will never work. Whatever he did to hurt you was so forceful that it caused you to grow hate for him. Not good. I went down your road. I accepted my boyfriend's friendship, and he really changed for the better. We basically changed roles where he was head over heals in love with me but he had wounded me so bad that I wasn't able to get back what I had for him before he crushed me. LSS I slaughtered his heart leading him to alcoholism, drugs, unemployed and homeless. I didn't do it intentionally. He hurt me to hate him and the hate took over as hard as I fought it. I would leave him, because I knew what was happening but he wouldn't stay away which only made me punish him. Never be his friend. It's to late. He replaced your love for him with hate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You still have feelings for him so no, a friendship will not work.
I'm guessing this ex has an underlying motive. Guys don't want to be "friends".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Friendship will not work for you if you still love him. You will end up being hurt again, either because he doesn't want more than a friendship, or he does and ends up using you. Be honest with yourself. Sometimes its better to cut someone out of your life for your own good - because you know more misery is around the corner while they are still in your life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I don't see the reason to get involved with this guy ever again, friends or not.
Personally I wouldn't. You know why he is an ex.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I don't know for sure about later, but for now it's obvious that you cannot rekindle a friendship with your ex!
For the reason that you don't see him as a friend and you don't have friendly feelings for him. You still have strong , passionate feelings of love and hate for him- and passion has got nothing to do with friendship. You can't be just his "friend " now- you'd fake it.
Moreover, I think that when people hurt you badly, it's good to forgive them in your heart, this does not mean though that you have to give them a second chance to hurt some more.
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