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writes: Just over 3 years ago we got a new supervisor in work and on his first day we really hit it off as mates, Im the type of person who makes the effort to make new people settle in and become part of the team. However as the weeks went by I started to have stronger feelings about him but tried to push them away for professional reasons however it didnt take long for others to notice that i had a bit of a thing for him and they all passed it on imagine my joy when he said he felt the same way. Although we didnt start a relationship straight away over the months that followed we went on a few dates and had a relationship, however when I got to know him a bit better outside of the workplace it was clear he wasnt the guy for me he wanted totally different things and was just so childish about things even though he was 4 years older than me! so i ended it and at the time i thought everything was ok between we stayed mates and often confided in each other about the stresses in life. However i met someone else about 2 months after splitting with him and he changed he wouldnt speak to me in work which made things awkward but i just left it thinkjing i could have blown it into somthing massive if i questioned it, he slowly came round and started chatting to me again. But the real problem has come now that he is facing disciplinary action for not meeting the requirements for his role and took the decision to step down from the supervisor role and i have been given a promotion to supervisor, just as he made that decision. (I would have been asked about the promotion even if he hadnt decided to step down) and now he is soo bitter that I am progressing that he is feeding stories to the rest of the team saying that I speak to him out of turn, aggressively and that I am basically being horrible to him!! Which i totally am not but different individuals keep raising concern to the store manager!! Although the store manager can see that I am not doing any of these things he is turning the team against me and as a result of him stepping down he will be moving to another store in a few weeks but im not sure i can ride out those weeks till he leaves for things to settle down I am constantly coming home from work upset because i know I am not doing any of things i am accused of! I have tried to speak to him and ask if i have upset him and how and he just denies saying that he has even said that ive upset him! How do i get through the next few weeks without walking out of the whole thing?? especially now i have the promotion i have waited for, for over 3 years!! And more importantly how do i get it through to the rest of the team i work with that I have not done any of things he is telling them so that they dont see me as the big baddy??
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