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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been working with a guy for 5 months now and I really though he was interested but he hasn't made a move yet which has been frustrating. Then today he talked about how he's thinking of moving away. What do I do?!He's freelance and only in my office 2 days a week. We get on so, so well, we have private jokes, I catch him looking at me, he remembers everything I tell him, he asks my advice on stuff, we've taken breaks together, he's asked about my childhood, how I get on with my family, what I want out of life, so many things. He gives me occasional little touches on the arm, he holds my eyes, he smiles all the time. We laugh all the time and just seem really comfortable around each other.I really really like him, like more than I've ever liked anyone. I laugh at his jokes, try to make him laugh, spend way more time with him than I need to. Ieven took him in a pice of his favourite cake as I'd been baking and he was talking aboput how much he loved that type of cake. I though it would be obvious to him I was interested and that at some point he would make a move, but he hasn't.Then today he told me he was getting itchy feet, all his friends were getting married and settling down (which previously he'd seemed to be hinting he wanted too) and he thought that while he had no ties maybe he should give moving to the big city a shot and have some fun. I am pretty sure I was visibly disappointed but try to be objective for him. Also, he's 35 (I'm 31), I feel like he's trying to reclaim his youth suddenly.I really don't want him to move and I don't understand whether he likes me or not now. I was so, so sure he did but was just being cautious because we work together.Do I say something and risk our working relationship?I'm so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011): First casually ask him out for a meal/drink next time you see him, getting him away from the work environment - then bring up the subject.I don't think he will refuse.
If you don't ask and he vanishes, you would always regret it
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