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writes:My wife lied to me about her sexual past and has now told me... 12 years later!!! Hi guys, I just wanted to say how much thissite helped me become a different person i am today.what ive learned is that if my wife would of told me about her sexual past back then, and the person i was then would of made me walk out of her life and i would have never found out what kind and great wife she is today. I mean she does everything for me that no other women has ever done for me. shes always been there for me all are ups and downs of life of 12 years we have been together. So what im trying to say to my male friends is women are always afraid of telling us their sexual past because we always judge them for it. instead of looking at what kind of person they really are, like my wife good hearted and loving person she is and many other women out there today.. so guys dont be like i was 'pretty much blind' you can always find a virgin, but is she gonna treat you with love and respect all your life maybe or maybe not. I would never trade what i have today for a virgin because i have something better, my wife's love respect honesty and the most thing her body that she has given me for life. what more can a guy ask for? So good luck guys hope everything works out for you like it did for me.
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reader, mr t-man +, writes (5 January 2013):
Oddly, the truth is simple. A woman of forty could have been in 10 long term relationships and that would not be considered promiscuous. Men really look at how many one, two night stands. I for one view that number to define promiscuity. Ladies, if we as people are in many ways the sum of our experiences you can't always be dishonest and say its not our partners business... Sorry, our behaviors are what define us. We are what we do.... sorry. You wanted this you got it. Enjoy it....
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reader, Aunt_Rita +, writes (11 July 2010):
You are a lucky man indeed
Cherish your life together - many "mature" people may not understand that love is going beyond the initial attraction and being together thick or thin days and it can overcome every roadblocks
God bless
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Thanks for coming here and saying that. It's responses (and results) like yours that keep me here.
Well done getting to that place in your relationship. You show that it is possible to have this experience and come out appreciating more from the relationship, not less.
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reader, PM  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 "women are always afraid of telling us their sexual past because we always judge them for it. instead of looking at what kind of person they really are"
Incredibly insightful, and profound, thing to realize.
Women are not put in an easy place when it comes to sexual past. A guy who sleeps with 20 women is seen as "just a guy" but a woman who sleeps with 20 men is looked down upon as if she did something wrong. Is it any wonder that so many women end up covering up the truth? It takes a lot of courage to be truthful which is unfortunate when truth is so valuable.
Thank you for sharing with us.
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reader, Blessing ogbonna  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 Good you saw the future before you the past.if not time would have told you what u lost.good for you
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reader, TimmD +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Well said, my friend. All I will say is that some guys get hurt not by the fact that their wife has had a sexual past other than themselves, but the fact that they lied about it all this time. But they just have to remember just what you said, women can be afraid to tell us their past because they feel they will be judged and therefor penalized. From there their lies snowball because the longer you are together, the harder it is to tell.
The moral of the story? Just what you said... base your opinion and reaction on the life she has led with YOU. Nobody is perfect, especially us guys.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 I wish this site was more like facebook so I could like this statement =]
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Good for you. :)
I hope a lot more guys (and women who have problems with their guys' sexual past) come to see things as you have.
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