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writes:Me and my boy friend broke up about 1 month ago and now he is seeing someone else but the other day we meet up for the first time since we broke up. we went to dinner and then the cinema it was like we was still together having fun laughin joking around with each other.. that nite he stayed at mine and we slept togther and now i dont know what to do we havent talked since but i have a party tomorrow with our friends and he is going with his girlfriend. please help i dont know what to do or what it meant....
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): It meant you were weak and you put on those rose-tinted specs and threw caution to the wind and now you feel rotten. He has a girlfriend and you sleeping with your ex was a lowly thing to do. Anyway what's done is done. You have to face them both at this party and I hope seeing those two together makes you realise it's time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): seriously you have to ask us what to do? honey, you know what to do. run for the hills. there's a reason he's your ex...dont sleep with men who have girlfriends. dont go out with men who have girlfriends. dont be so easy. he has absolutely no respect for you and you have none for yourself. you cannot change his actions but you can change how you treat yourself and allow others to treat you. come on honey you are worth more than this.hugs, mal
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Wow. Imagine if you were the current girlfriend and he went behind your back and had sex with his ex. How would that make you feel??
This guy is no one you should be anywhere near. He cheats on his girlfriends and uses his ex because of some nostalgic feeling, then drops her as if it never happened. What a catch.
You need to leave him alone. He's a lying cheater. Doesn't matter if you were the cheat-ee. How can you ever begin to trust him if he has it in him to do that to a girl???
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): Within my experience, sleeping with your ex when you have feelings for them and they have a girlfriend is not the best idea.
What were things like when you went out with your ex? Did it feel romantic or as if you're just friends?
As you broke up a month ago, thats not really a long time for old habits to die out, so personally I think that there may be some lingering feelings there and that your ex's girlfriend is just a rebound.
See how things go at the party tomorrow and see if either your ex talks to you or treats you as if you're invisible. But do not confront the current girlfriend about what happened because no good can come of this.
If you feel as if what happens is still bothering you, then maybe talk to your ex about this and see how he feels about what happened?
Hope it goes ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I guess you broke up and "stayed friends". There are "friends" and "friends with benefits". If you want to be friends and still have sex with him, then keep doing what you just did. He will be in a relationship with her, but banging you on the side. Is that what you want? You need to make a clean break.
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