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writes:I have been married for 16 years and while our sex life hasn't always been great in the last 18 months my wife would rather talk to guys on a webcam site than come to bed with me.I try to talk to her about it but she just says it's a bit of fun and laughs it off.When I suggest we go on the site as a couple she point blank refuses to.Sometimes she talks to strangers but most of the time she talks to guys she has known for a while on that site.What should I do???
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (6 March 2014):
 I’m wondering if this is a new found hobby that she’s got herself hooked on. What does she gain by talking to these guys via webcam, has anything changed in the bedroom when she does join you? Plus it may well be fun for her, but it’s at your (marital) expense and not making you laugh.
When it comes to the Internet and forums etc., my partner has full disclosure of my activities and writings… Although I’m sure he’s not threatened of my Dear Cupid association, the point is he’s privileged.
If I were you, I’d ask for disclosure (honesty) and or find what it is about this site that appeals to her… evidently something is missing, and in the last 18 months she has perhaps found an escape in lieu of a lack lustre situation at home – ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2014): You guys need to do more 'dirty talk':)plan a date night and get things heated up. Then get around to asking her if there was anything she would like to try in the bed room, talk about what you would like to try. I think she might want to get things a little more heated up in the bed rooom but doesn't know how to approach the subject with you, so she finds it easier to play out the fantasy online - just my take on it, I don't know you or your wife or your marriage. I don't condone what your wife is doing and of course you should tell how hurt this make you feel.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 March 2014):
 I look at it as cheating even though the technical definition is physical and involves insertion. She is not concerned for your feelings, more like treating you as a fool for staying, because you aren't going to stop it or don't know how to. I would not tolerate it, I would put my foot down and tell her that you are not satisfied, she doesn't sound like she wants to make an effort. She doesn't feel like making love to you so there is no point staying married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2014): Ouch, that's pretty disrespectful. Sounds like you might need to persuade her to go to counselling. Has she been feeling rejected by you for any reason?
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