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writes:My wife recently went on a bachelorette party to Las Vegas. Some of the girls decided to go to the adults-only topless pool. My wife and a couple other girls (single) decided to take their tops off. The one's who were married did not. My wife ended up spending a lot of time, topless, talking to a friendly couple in the pool (the wife was also topless). My wife says the couple was older than her, and bought her a couple of drinks. I asked if they were hitting on her. She said, "I'm not sure." I asked if they could plainly see her breasts. She laughed and said, "Of course. They and everyone else." I am not sure what to think about this. My wife and I have never been to a topless pool together. We had never really discussed this issue before. My wife did not engage in sexual contact with the couple (I am sure I would have heard about it form someone else).What do y'all think?
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reader, jls022  +, writes (10 September 2015):
Maybe this is because I grew up in Europe, but in my experience going topless on holiday is very normal and not sexual at all. It means you don't get tan lines and keeps you cooler on the beach too. So personally I don't think you have anything to worry about. If anything, you should be pleased that your wife is confident enough with her body to go topless.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 September 2015):
Your wife is AWESOME!!!!
Now you know something else about your wife...she has a bit of a wild side she may want to get out, and YOU may not have encourage that before. Now you know.
Secondly...If your wife is confident enough with her body, and have no problem enjoying the moment...more props to her.
If I were in your place...I would let my wife be as sexy as she wants....why??? Everyone else can look and drool. They may even go home and fantasize about her...but guess what??? You get to sleep in bed with the real thing. :))) So why should you care??
Jealousy has NO place in a relationship....ZERO!!! If you can trust her, and you know she didn't do anything, I say you have a new event to explore :) What other things is she holding back? :)...Bonus for you good sir :)))
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 mmm.... couple of red flags here.. first your wife bared her breasts infront of other people, and if she was so comfortable doing this, perhaps she has done it before? I am under the impression that these adults-only topless pools were for couples/men/women to meet up for sex?? I think the couple chatting to your wife were hoping for a 3-some or at least some sexual contact. This other couple were not in the pool just for the fun of it.Now I am not saying your wife participated in anything but it is a bit concerning with her loss of inhibition.Talk to her, maybe she wants to experience the swinging life [I am anti-swinging as I believe it opens the marriage to all sorts of problems], maybe she wants to try and bring a bit of spark back into your relationship.I think there is definitely more to this than your wife lets on. I also think that if anything happened, it will eventually come out. Things that happen in Vegas don't always stay in Vegas.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 I see your concern. Sounds like you didnt attack so her motive to lie and defensiveness is reduced. Seems as tho you should be clear on things when one is not in the presence of the other.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Probably a bit uncomfortable to hear but if you trust your wife then i would probably chalk it up to her getting caught up in the freedom of liberating herself from the norm and a bit of fun risqué behaviour. Bit like the saying 'When in Rome, do as the Romans do'. Doesn't seem like she tried to hide anything, maybe a light hearted view is the best approach.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Oh, also: I would be more concerned if she hid this fact from you. Her being upfront I think shows that she has trust in her own faithfulness, and only shows body confidence.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (10 September 2015):
I think they're her breasts and she can do what she wants with them. At worst, she might have done it for attention, but she didn't do it for cheating, so I think there's nothing wrong with it.
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