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writes:Hi there,two weeks ago I posted my concern at "dearcupid". It was about my thai wife who got pregnant from a Thai man. Yesterday she sent me an email to let me know that she is going to divorce me. Thus I got to call her up. She claimed that she had an appointment with lawyer to procede the divorce. She wants to get her maiden name back. I believe that she has born her baby just weeks ago. The registration of the new baby should take place within 4 weeks though. She is right now in a kinda pressure. The thing is she wants me to send her money to file the divorce. It might be around $1000. I told her that the guy who made her pregnant should pay all the expenses. What do you think is the best to do? Looking forward to hearing your suggestion
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reader, KhunJohn  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 I am not surprised at this as in the end your the rich one and it is you who has to foot this bill due to your wealth. It is the same as if your in a car/scooter accident in thailand even if it is not your fault you will be expected to pay as your the wealthy one/Also your the Farang/outsider. I have been traveling now to Thailand for 11 years(about 28 times) In the end it is up to you but really she justs expect you to pay due to money you have compared to her. But don`t make her new partner pay. Also did you marry here in Thailand or where you live? If you married in Thailand did your register the marriage in your home country? If you did not register it at home she has no recourse I think but may be an issue if you go back to Thailand but if she does not persue it as in your passport number and such even that will not be a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I'm pleased to hear that!
Think about 'what if' things were the other way around: You write to her to tell her you want a divorce because you've got another woman pregnant and could she please send $1000 so that you can file the papers to do so.
Would she happily send the cash? I DON'T THINK SO!!!
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reader, jacko2550 +, writes (12 July 2008):
jacko2550 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there,
thank you for all your comments. I believe I am on the right side if I dont pay the expenses to file for the divorce. Indeed, I feel much better now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): You have recieved great advice from the "uncles" in the previous postings; I agree with them keep your money in your pocket; I think you must be very careful, never send any money; it might get twisted on that side and even be made look as if you are paying some kind of child support;
BE VERY CAREFUL,as you are still married, these things can become very messy; in some countries the laws are very different;
I do suggest you use the money for your own legal expenses.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Are you kidding us? You are actually thinking of sending this woman the money so that she can divorce you, probably try to take you for everything you have, go with the guy who she committed adultery with and have the baby that is his while you were married. Take the money and get yourself an attorney right now and tell her to f*** off. And I'm being nice and restraining myself about what I say about her. She may be your wife, but she is not worth caring about. Protect yourself from this scam.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 There are some absolute horror stories out of Thailand. One is the Thai woman married to a foreigner who has all these male "cousins" hanging round. Of course, the cousins are all boyfriends.
This woman of yours sounds like a wife from hell. I don't know how you met her, but she doesn't sound like she has much morality to speak of. Keep your money and let her squirm. She'll keep finding ways to milk money out of you; just be prepared for the next scam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Her sisters are probably in on the deal too and will likely get a rake-off of the proceeds - ie your $1000. Don't be silly. Keep it in your pocket. I'm sure she and her sisters have spun you a very nice line, knowing you're either soft hearted or gullible. Don't be taken for an absolute fool. If the other guy wants her that bad tell him, directly or indirectly, that he can have her - but he'll have to pay for the privilege.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 July 2008):
 She wants to file for divorce and meet with an attorney, those are her expenses. You're not responsable for paying her bills. We each take responsability for our own actions. Her actions in filing for divorce, her pocket book in paying for the filing.
If this is a U.S. marriage and at least one of you still resides within the U.S., they assume jurisdiction over the divorce. As some countries don't recognize marriage from other countries, divorce is the same way. Let her know that gran you'll need for your own attorney. If you have marital assets etc. you'll need an attorney to assure you don't get railroaded by the law. You may also need to have a paternity test taken. It's strange, but any child born while 2 people are married become a child of that marriage.
I wish you luck. Divorce can be difficult, but is much more so when you don't have the proper legal protection for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I agree with UnclePhil. The other guy should pay all expenses. You've heard all about the money problems in Thailand and those regions, or if you haven't, there is.
As I said, ask the guy that made you pregnant to pay for the expenses, get the divorce from her but don't give her anything.
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reader, jacko2550 +, writes (12 July 2008):
jacko2550 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Uncle Phil,thank you for your reply. Indeed, she got pregnant whilst I was in a neighboring country for work. By my return back to Bangkok I was told by her that she could not meet me. Later on, she admitted that she got pregnant. She never told me that was a Thai. But her both sisters told me that. He was her former boyfriend whom she was never married with. At that time in Bangkok I told her to get divorced. But she did not want to. I believe she did not want me to see her pregnant. etc. According to her sister in January this year, my wife may bear the baby sometime in June. Now it is July and ......Anyway, I am not eager to pay for the divorce as she commited adultery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Are you serious?? I've no idea what your previous post was, and I assume you're in the US whilst she's in Thailand? If so, I'm guessing this could be some sort of blackmail plot or something similar, and all she wants is a bit of cash from you. I don't think a divorce in Thailand would cost anything like that amount for a start!
Make sure you've got all the facts right before you do anything at all, but as for sending her $1000, I'd say that's her problem and for ten dollars a time she could make that in no time at all.
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