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writes:After a relationship that has lasted for 16 yrs, the last 10 married my wife has stated she doesnt love me anymore because I have neglected her and left her on her own too much. This is odd because she was telling people she couldnt do without me only a few months ago. She told me this after I had allowed her to go with an ex boyfriend back to their home town for a few days to meet up with old school friends ( I am not the jealous or possessive type)She is also going through the menopause which as you know messes up a womans emotions and hormones. She says she will stay until the house is sold and in the meantime will see if her feelings change but says she worries they wont. After two weeks trying to change her mind I feel I have had enough because she obviously isnt interested in saving her marriage. I fear she is about to embark on an affair with her ex which would explain a lot of other things. I am considering commencing divorce proceedings even though I love my wife. My friends and family feel I am being too hasty, can you help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): I think you need to go with your heart. not what people tell you ... it sounds like she thinking about the options of an affair.
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reader, Belle De Jour +, writes (6 September 2008):
 like you said , she is going throguh the menaporses , so all womens emotions and feelings are not correct , i think what you should do is if she feels like she is neglected by you , when she comes home from work , just greet her with a smile on your face , a little kiss on the cheak , and dinner in the oven all ready so she doesnt have to cook it her self , and then , you can sit down with her , and just amke hre feel like you do relly care about her . hopefully she will realise that then she loves you and will understand everything again ... but as for the surposised affair .. just keep your eye on er but dont make it obv .. just watch what she does and when she does things , and just make sure that you make her feel special at least 3 times a fortnight at the minium .. because she will feel neglected again .if nothing changed within 4 months then sit her down and really talk it over.. and i mean really .. dont go shouting and yelling at each other , your both matre adults who can possiable sort this out .. hope it helps belle x
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