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writes:Me and my wife have been married for just over a year. We dated for a few years prior to getting married and never cheated on each other. The last few weeks have been tough on us due to moving away from our friends and families and new stresses at work. Well i caught my wife emailing a few guys, and i went through her emails and saw she sent some of them pics in her bra and panties, and was talking about possibly meeting them for fun. This has never happened before and I am wondering what i should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): You should think about everything, and then make a decision, be honest with yourself and follow your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): I am the poster of this message and i dont want to run out on the relationship yet. She never met any of the guys from online and i caught it before it resulted in anything more serious. She has just all of the trust I had in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): I think it's time you 'reel' her back in again, hun. And have a good chat about what's missing in your marriage, that she'd be seeking the attentions of other men. She's doing this by trolling the internet for male attention and using other men to feel 'alive and desired'. Anytime, she sits at the computer or spends time, emailing or chatting to other men, she is making the clearcut, adult choice to deprive you from her attentiveness, love, her emotional energy and intimacy. She's escaping from the need to develop, enhance, grow and work on your marriage. Playing a tittilating game 'internet footsies' with what she thinks are men, who want her is a dangerous game. They could be anyone-weirdos, perverts, underage youth. One can't be sure. I do think if she follows this path, she is destined to feel even lonelier than she is now.
I recommend you get strong, ask her if she values this marriage. Start discussing with her with her what is lost in your marriage that has caused this behavior of hers. Stress is tough but globally, couples work hard at their marriages to overcome challenges. That is just the way marriage is. She and you need to begin the steps of renewing your committment to each other. Start with communication and then think about some marriage counselling. That may be a sensible place to start. Good luck, dear
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): I am sorry, but this is not acceptable; no matter how harsh it may sound, you have no marriage left.
You have a few options:
1. Explain to her that if she wants to behave like a prostitute, you will set her up on the internet.Explain that you will share the profits from her earnings and manage it for her, however you will be living separate lives and sleeping in separate rooms.
2. Change all your bank account codes and personal details that she might have access to. Consult a lawyer a.s.a.p.
Get divorce before she is pregnant and you have more problems.
You will never be able to trust her and if she has so little respect for you or your marriage, what are you waiting for? No you don't need to take this type of abuse or behaviour. Move fast, in fact RUN!
She has serious problems, and get out, now! Fun? WIll she consider it fun if you were exposing yourself to girls? why and what for? Is she in need of attention?
Get out or otherwise, make fun of her fun and make money! No, I no that sounds harsh but you need to think of yourself and your future! She is not respecting you!
You have to ACT!
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