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writes:My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We have four wonderful children. For the last 2 1/2 months she and our oldest daughter have been on gaia, talking too people. But it seems that my wife is on the computer talking more than the daughter is. I ask who she's talking to she becomes very angry, telling to mind my own business. I ask her what's wrong and she tells me that it's me. She tells me she needs space. About the same time this was taking place she started sleeping in our daughter's room. And staying in there for most of the day watching t.v. and texting people on her phone. I give her space. How much space is too much? And our sex life has pretty much stopped. It seems she avoids me at all costs. At least that how it seems to me.
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reader, MARRIEDandHAPPY +, writes (14 October 2008):
Wow, i have only been married for 3 yrs and some change, but it your situations is a problem, and one thing that i have learn is that communication is the key to the relationship, and if she is isolating herself from you then there is a big issue and i agree with everyone that has answered so far that you have to confront the situation now and not later...to me space right now is not a option since she has already created it herself, but one thing i will say is as a husband, if you havent already done so evaluate yourself and your life as well, and i say this not to bash your character as a person, but i have been guilty of it to and sometimes the answer isnt that hard to see but we do overlook...but it does have to be investigated now...continue to ask, and if that doesnt work, you are here husband...get personal take her phone, look on the computer at what she may be doing, talk to your daughter talk to her friends and even family she may trust. i say when all else fails try some trickery and be your own private eye, or actor...our women would if they needed too.
Now, when you talk to her stress your concerns, but do not give any options...remain strong and if it continues on then i say prepare for the worst that she is looking for some excitement or she has already found it, but remain strong very much so look at yourself if she has already said that it's you. Wish you luck man!
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reader, xelax  +, writes (14 October 2008):
If i was you i would address this problem NOW before the problem turns to cheating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): OUCH! This doesn't sound too good here..I don't blame you for being concerned..sounds like a real problem might be brewing. Are you close to your daughter? Could you get any info from her possibly? You need to talk to your wife, she's shutting you out...why?? I wouldn't wait on this either, talk it out now.
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