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writes:I am married fo 8 years and was a virgin when I married, My wife also said that even though she had affairs there was no physical etc. Now after 8 years she says that she thinks about the guy and his physical when she is physical with me and her life was roaring with him for 5 years. All this has put me down. It was tough for me to get over this (it took 6 years) and now again I think she's just using me and used me. We have one child and I am doing everything for him.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 it sounds like you need to go to the judge to get a divorce.she is trying to give you signs that she still loves the guy
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 It sounds like yor wife is curious about other men and may feel she has missed out by just having one partner. It is perfectly natural for this to happen for someone who has only ever had 1 sexual partner.
Perhaps spicing your love life will rekindle her interest, physically, in you. Sex is something both people have to work on and I think she has dropped hints she isn't feeling satisfied.
Sit her down. Talk to her. Ask her what it is she wants and what her fantasys are. Ask her what excites her what would make her happy in the bed room. Suggest toys or different place, positions ect. Don't be surprised if she says she fantasizes about another guy. Explain to her how you feel about and then try to reach a solution.
If the relationship continues she will always wonder and it will have to be her job to content herself with what she has unless you would be willing to allow her to sexually have another so she knows what it is, but with that comes a whole can of worms you probably wouldn't like and isn't advisable if you want to keep a monogomous relationship.
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