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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 December 2013):
 Oh man im sorry I do have a strong feeling shes seeing another guy. Does she attack ur personality? She seems immature anyway man if shes partying a lot. Shes in fun mode not family. Good luck.
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (13 December 2013):
These are danger signals i'm afraid.I've read hundreds of letters like these and it usually means she has no feelings for you any more and is probably sleeping with someone already.You should prepare yourself for a separation at some point.Sorry.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (13 December 2013):
 I think your wife feels like she lacks excitement in her life, so she goes to parties. It makes her feel young, attractive and vibrant again. It may or may not involve another man. For all you know she just loves to dance. Why don't you join her the next time she goes out? If she's refusing to have sex with you, it means that you are not connecting as a couple anymore. This could be part of the reason why she goes out.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (13 December 2013):
 More detail would be useful to help give you sound advice, but here's how I see it:
If she's neglecting your marriage to go party, you need to sit her down and have a talk with her about it.
Explain that her choices are either to party in moderation like the married woman she is, or to party like the wild SINGLE woman she's about to be if she can't compromise with you on this. You can't force her to stay home but you are well within your rights to decide that her excessive partying is a deal-breaker in a committed marriage.
Like the other poster, I would also be suspicious of cheating on her part if she has suddenly lost all interest in sex with you.
Good luck and best wishes as you work through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013): You need to sit her down and talk. Its the only way. You can't carry on like this. She's not respecting your marriage at all. Try the gentle aporoach. Non accusatory and ask her how she's feeling and if you can both really open up and be honest.
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reader, somewhere_between +, writes (13 December 2013):
 You need to keep a close eye on her.If she behaves like she wants to be single, then grant her that wish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013): i think she is having some FUN with another guy.you need to do some spy work and get all the facts then decide.
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