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writes:Hi,I'm a 'young' 60 y/o and married. My wife and I visit friends on a weekly basis sometimes twice weekly. For the past six months I cannot get this other lady out of my mind - it's something I've never experienced before. I'm not going through a mid-life crisis. I've examined everything from every possible angle and still every day my thoughts are about her - I'm just so happy in her company. I just need soemtime to knock ideas around with another perspective.I should say that I have a lovely wife but our relationship is more based on brother/sister than anyting else.I know when I meet her she has similar feelings as I can see it in her eyes as no doubt she can see it in mine. Look forward to hearing from you.Harington Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 I feel like the previous posters are working on a lot of assumptions, like their marriage Is 'lovely' as is your wife. if there has been no feeling in the marriage for so long I'd consider doing you and your sister-like wife a favor and divorce. if this is too extreme, perhaps i would admit to your wife some of the feelings you have for the mutual friend--maybe you can work out something between the three of you, if your wife is openminded.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 October 2007):
She is a friend. It is OK to have racy thoughts about her, but I hope you are too much of a gentleman to act on a happy thought. You have given your word to your wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): Harington, you say you are not going through a mid life crisis but it sounds a bit like it to me. Your lovely wife who has been there for you through thick and thin is now looked upon as a sister, poor thing for having to put up with you! Sorry to sound so blunt but you are married to her for better or for worse. What if she was looking at blokes and they were looking back, how do you think you would feel. I think you are having a mid life doodah! Get out there and knock some ideas around with your male friends, or just keep it to a chat with her, but do not persue it. Remember the grass can look greener on the other side, jump the fence and land in a great pile of poo!!
Be careful and dont ruin the lovely marriage that you have.
take care
xx
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