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writes:Wife grew up kind of a prude- never seems to really enjoy sex all that much. Just want her to feel as good as she makes me feel. If I come home with a little help with a vibe that she will be repulsed or OK to try. Any wen think this is a horrible move to make?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 November 2012):
 I would not just spring it on her... if she is a prude and sexually uncomfortable she wont' take it well and may find it a criticism of her sexuality.
Have you told her you want to rock her world like she rocks yours? (my husband says this all the time and it warms my heart)
is there an "adult toy store" around you that you could take a visit to together???
I'd go very very slowly with her.
Is she orgasmic does she even masturbate? IF she does you've got half the battle done... if not you have to work on that comfort level first.
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reader, Fedupmom +, writes (15 November 2012):
Good luck with this. But be forewarned. Be careful what you wish for. If she opens up to becoming more comfortable with her sexuality you say NOW that this is what you want. I hope you do not turn on her once she starts enjoying sex more. I have always been the more sexual person in my marriage & it's ruining our marriage. My husband doesn't want sex as much as I do- now he resents who I am. A little too late after 20 years together and 2 kids. I hope this turns out better for you. Keep an open mind and remember my warning. DON"T turn on her. You wanted this & be happy if you get your wish!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Why don't you just ask her? Why not get it and see how she reacts. She isn't going to leave you because you got her a vibrator. There's no harm in trying.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 November 2012):
 I think it comes down to what kind you think of getting - some huge dildo will probably shut her down something buz-buz that doesn't go inside might be a good start.
BUT with that said, I think being open about it and TALKING about it can make all the difference. Maybe even get her actively HELPING in picking out what SHE might want to try over something YOU think she might like, know what I mean. I would suggest going online with her, not a XXX toy shop.
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