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writes:My wife a couple months ago found out her cousin on the other side of the country had cancer and wanted to go see him. Well they were never close but I didnt understand why but I let her go, she came back a week later and started fighting afterwards.We decided to do some kind of self counciling where we make sure to talk to each other every day for about an hour or more well she still wanted to go back this time for 2 weeks.(also we have a baby and I work full time and shes a stay at home mom)She goes away for 2 weeks and says she needs time to think about our relationship, so she comes back and her cousin is with her and he never really said words to me and me and my wife would keep fighting cause she didnt want to spend time with me while she was back and so forth, well the day he leaves to go back home she tells me she no longer loves me and wants to separate.So we have at it a bit and i leave and stay at a buddies place. This whole time im confuzed to why we are so bad when right before she left the 2nd time we were good. Well a few days past and all the signs are pointing to there must be some kind of sex act between the 2 of them and i finally confront her and she tells me she had sex with him twice when she was out of town and she thinks she loves him......She looked into divorce pryer to telling me but i still love her but dont know how to face her and not want to throw up when i see her. 1st off if she still wants to be with me how can i get past this? and if she doesnt how can I let her take my baby to be with her inbred lover?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): then let this "whore" go. you will NEVER be able to forgive her and she has really totally disrespected you. kick her out of your life and never let her back in. she has no feeling for you. she brought her lover back home with her- enough said. get rid of her. she is trouble. and please do not waste any time pining over her. tell her to pack her sh1t and get away from you. get a good attorney and show her that she cannot mess you around. it is time to seperate the boy from the man and the man needs to admit that his marriage has failed , tha his wife is a cheater and that he will aurvive. please you are not her doormat. she wants a divorce- let her get one. you enjoy your life. ou are young and you will move on. Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): I doubt she still wants to be with you but if so then you two need professional help. If not then you need to contact a lawyer immediately and file for divorce.
Also try to get proof, that she is sleeping with her cousin. You can use that in court to get the upper hand.
Oh and if I were you I would file for emergency sole custody of the child. There is no way I would let her take my child across the country to go shack up with her cousin, that's disgusting and will eventually be harmful to the child.
Your must protect your child now. Good luck
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 The only agvenue left for you is the road to freedom. pack up your good stuff and take the first train out of Dodge.
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reader, twinlab99 +, writes (26 June 2010):
 What the hell is wrong with this world....take all the money out of the bank and leave.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 June 2010):
My advice to you is to get a lawyer double quick. If she still wants to be with you, you really need counselling to get to the bottom of this. Could it be that her staying at home has got to her? Of the baby is causing her mental strain. I'm not looking to excuse her there, but you need to know why this has happened. But she's making too many rash decisions here and I suspect that she might make yet another. So be ready with both a lawyer and a counsellor.
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