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writes: hey...me and my wife are married for 5 years..she is into film industry from the past two years...shes done a lot of adult films and though i dont like her getting intimate i really dont object cause i dont want to create a rift..till now i was okay because it only involved kissing and hugging but the project shes on right now...shes needed to strip completely and get very close to her co actor....to see how its actually done i did visit one part of d schedule..i was shocked to see the coactor stripping my wife in front of me one by one till shes completely nude and she doing the same and then both of dem rubbing against each other though they didnt actually have sex....i jst cant stand this..bt my wife is okay with it....infact i saw and felt she got really wild during the scene and was seeming to have lot of fun...though she denies all of it and says itz a part of her job...plzz advice...ne similar incidences and how do u cope with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I can't really understand your update, but I'll try.
In your question you state that she's done adult films. In which adult films mean porn.
Whether or not she's in porn, she is an actress and has to do sex scenes. In which this IS her JOB, it's not like she's getting personal enjoyment in doing this. Although, I'm sure she's making a pretty decent wage. Anyways, my point is that you know she's an actress and is going to be subject to these scenes. If she turns them down then there goes her career, and the house payment for that month.
If you go back and reread what I wrote, I state that you either accept that this is her career choice, and subject yourself to personal counseling to get over your insecurity. Or you ask her to quit her career. Those are your solutions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey..thnx for all ur advices...but u ppl r wrun if u think indian films dnt have nude scenes...refernce-maya memsaab,sin,water,earth,race 2sum extent etc...n plzzz my wife isnt a porn actress...shes nt a top notch actress bt atleast a descent one....actually d scenes are aestheticaly shot so on screen it luks sensual bt ok...but in actual shoots itz really not that...all d crew men keep staring at my wifes naked body till d shoot is done...n she has 2show a fake climax dats seems 2b 2real though its not.....plzzz...tell me how 2go through it instead of questionin me...y cant let it happen n c it peacefully....like other star husbands
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): Usually everyone knows foreplay can arouse sexual interest and that is what happens in these shootings, now there are chances to fall in wrong deed and its obviously any husband can get hurt, it is well known to all that these jobs are not good for anybody who want to live happy married life, its up to you to allow her for such job or not
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reader, meldana +, writes (14 April 2011):
Guys! your forgetting the important thing, this man's question being answered! Sigh, anyways. If you feel uncomfortable about the scene sit down and talk with your wife. explain to her your feelings and (most important) WHY you feel this way. Tell her that while you respect the way things are going with her able to get a job after job (cause you said this wasn't a one time thing) that you wish for her to limit herself to a non sexual movie. Seek counseling (preferably couple) and offer to support her regardless if she does or doesn't stop making these movies.
Remember, while you should encourage her it shouldn't be at the risk of your peace of mind. You have a right to say what you need to say.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 April 2011):
From what it sounds, your wife is a amateur porn star. Now you two must not live in India for her to have this career choice?
If your wife is indeed in the porn industry, then you've been aware of this from day 1. So you must either accept the fact this is what your wife does for a living to bread on the table. Or you ask her if she will be willing to make a career change in order to keep your marriage from falling apart.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 In India ??? Are you talking about Indian film industry ?
How can that be ?
Movie censorship is heavy there - it would make no sense to shoot scenes like you describe , they would be cut.
Actress Priyanka Bose showed one breast in "Gangor " , now the film is stuck, pending censorship approval. And the actress is getting tons of hate mail, after the gossip magazines reported about her partial nudity scene..
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