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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now, but have been interested in each other way before then. He's everything I expected and more, his family are amazing, he's amazing, everything is amazing! ... other than his kissing.Yes, he's amazing in every way but he has only had one serious partner before and though he wont tell me what they did together, he's admitted they got further than pleasantries.So why is he THIS bad a kissing? It's not just a 'bumping noses' thing, it's like getting your lips trapped in a vacuum and then that vacuum licking your face.I've pulled up every excuse from ulcers to 'not feeling into it because of my period' but I can't dodge the bullet forever. Three kisses a day is all I can take! When my excuses come out I think it damages his ego, which is entirely my fault for the stupid excuses but ... I want to know a nice way to tell him he needs to kiss slower, not give me a bath every time and close his mouth more. I'd be fine with teaching him but how do I broach the subject without damaging his ego even more?Thanks for the help and sorry it's so long!Regards, Jade.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): My husband is (was) an absolutely terrible kisser, either a closed-lipped peck or the vacuum cleaner/eggbeater concept. I've gotten him to go a bit further into middle ground by starting with a peck, but then pecking again, more softly, and again, slow and lingering, until he starts to warm up. If it doesn't last too long I can get some tongue play, but I still have a problem with the way he kisses when he gets really hot, as it's back to the household appliances. It's as if he doesn't want to take the time to actually feel what is going on, to enjoy the kiss. So I guess that's not really a whole solution, but a start... Good luck, and let us know how it goes!
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reader, Firefighter  +, writes (1 August 2010):
Well I'm a guy and would personally love a girl to be honest with me tell him I think it's more sexy when you kiss me slowly or sum thn like tell him what you want nd how you want it I think it will save and make ur relationship stronger...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): tell him that you dont like it so high...
though i dont think that only a kissing can be so big deal for a whole relationship when things are already in so better state.. you should also think that many men can kiss well but cannot do well on bed..:p
tell him to kiss you slowly, and show this answer to him (if you can trust him)..
man: "Go on slow man!!, :p she is a girl comeon, i also kissed my gf and one day she bite my tongue so hard..:p dont express yourself in such a fetish way"
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (1 August 2010):
 OH God.. I know exactly the feeling... My ex-boyfriend used to put his tongue down my throat, trying to experiment a french kiss, but I felt like I had a wet snake inside my mouth, so I backed off.
Later on, whenever he brought himself closer to my lips, I was reluctant and looking at my watch or getting rid of invisible lints from my coat.. He asked me if I had problems with kissing, and I said "Uh.. I'm not much of a kissing person, I like to cuddle instead". So we worked it out. Thank God our relationship lasted 6 weeks...
There's nothing much you can do. You could just suggest him to try other kissing styles :)
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