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writes: My wife does not want to make love any more.She does not like sex - totally uninterested and refuses help. She is happy this way.Do I look elsewhere? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (25 November 2005):
 Looking for sex elsewhere isn't the solution to the problem but talking to your wife and explaining again exactly how you feel and what you are thinking, is.
Would she be happy for you to have an affair? Would another woman be content to have sex with you while you are married?
Just because your wife is happy not having sex doesn't make it right at all for your relationship and she should seek help as this is a very important part of marriage. She needs to be aware of the effect her lack of interest is and will have on your relationship.
Do you know or understand the reasons why she no longer wants sex? Have you ever had a satisfying sex life with her? You and your wife need to work through the causes of her lack of sex drive and try to find solutions together if she will discuss this openly with you.
Consider to yourself how you will feel if you and your wife aren't to have sex at all. Can you accept this? If not, then I think you will need to reevaluate your marriage and consider the possibility of even ending it if she refuses to compromise. The problem is that if you have an affair, this will cause pain and hurt for all parties concerned. Rather than being unfaithful, it would be better to not be with someone in the first place.
I do hope this helps.
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