A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello there, I have a big problem. I have been married for almost 5 years already and I find myself so nice to my wife. I work far away from my family im a sailor and I only get to see my family 2 to 3 months and of course once I am home I want to be sweet to my wife. The problem is that my wife is so cold when it comes to making love. It seems that he is not happy nor she does not like. I am always disappointed because every time I feel like doing it she always ignores me or reject it and sometimes I feel like going out with another girls. I never never go out with another girls except this time I think i have to know and to let her name that I need it. Please advise me as I need it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bexter  +, writes (23 April 2012):
It's important that you address this before it gets out of hand. But you need to talk about it in a very calm and rational way.From a female's perspective I have gone off sex when I've been upset about things, depressed or under lots of stress. Maybe you could tell your wife that you really need more intimacy and also ask her if there is anything that is upsetting her. Tell her that if something is wrong you want to give her all the support that you can. Sometimes women feel under pressure to perform too. And maybe if you have this chat with her and then ease off in your advances she will feel under less pressure. This alone might be enough to bring her round. Meanwhile use your hand!However, if this continues then you might have to seek outside help in the form of relationship counselling.
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female
reader, Starlights +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Tell how how you feel.
Communicate with her.
Tell her how much you want intimacy and how it forces you to feel disapointed when she doesnt show her love for you this way.
There must be a good reason why your wife is rejecting your advances. Talk it out and find out.
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