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writes: my wife of one year has confessed to me that he has slept with several guys in the hotels around the city before our marriege.she boldly narrated to me how the sex sessions went on between them to her delight. Now i no longer have trust for this woman becouse she has cheated on me without my knowledge.please i need your advice on what to do with this problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I think you should get a divorce.She might not like it,but it takes two people to make a marriage work.I was wrong
about what I said in other articles.Cheating is unfor-
givable.You shouldn't take her back.Cheating is so crazy
and shows that they have no care for their partner.Everyone
makes mistakes but cheating is not a mistake because the
person that's cheating knows what they're doing.Just like
if somebody decided to rob a bank,or shoplift.They know
what the risks are,but they don't see it as anything wrong
and go on about their business.So get a divorce,because one
thing that is needed in a marriage is trust!
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 The way she boldly related the details of her sex sessions sounds like she might be trying to turn you on, with jealousy. Or else she is trying to get rid of you. Very hard to know what to make of your situation. Most wives don't come out and relate this kind of thing to a new husband. Did you trick her into doing this?
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Hey my brother thing that hurts is why is she telling you now that your married for 1year.maybe shez sending you signs she wants to do what she used to do back then..have you asked her why is she telling you all that now?why didnt she tell you back then.what i see is if she was sleeping around before she maybe wanted to prove that she can be married despite of her behaviour.and now she doesnt want to be in that marriage anymore she wants to go back to her life.my brother talk to her listen to what she has to say if she wants to go let her go dont insist on her let her be cause i believe once you treat someone bad it will get back to you.and for you God will give you the best okey take it easy just look at her.lemi know what happens my brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): You haven't given us enough information to give you proper advice.
Of course it hurts and destroys your trust to find out that your wife was unfaithful before your marriage, and not once but several times.
But apart from this, how is your marrige going at the moment. Have you been happy with her, has she been faithful, does she treat you right, can you see yourself being happy with her until the day you die? These are the things that are important in marriage. The past is just that, the past. It can't predict the future, it can't be changed, it can't be repaired. You can either accept it or move on and end the relationship.
How the hell did you get into the discussion anyway. Did you have your suspicions and ask her, or was she feeling guilty and felt she should tell. Give us an update with more information and we will try to provide better answers.
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