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writes:25 years old now, have a career, which I consider a stepping stone to bigger heights in my professional life, but as for my personal life, I full of worries, boredoms and unsatisfactory, simply because of one thing, my virginity.... For me it feels like a burden, a curse. I have tried so much to make all the girls that I like to like me back, especially for who I am, I didn't show as if I am after sex, because I wasn't looking for only sex, I need someone who needs, someone who loves me, someone I can confide in, I can have fun with and importantly whom I will experience life with. But all that its not happening or it doesn't look as if it will happen, even when I try so much to be a mobile person. Is this really a curse or is there something I haven't tried?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2015): Online dating is at least as much of a meat-market as the bar scene.Men don't get judged entirely on looks but they get judged on their career/age/etc for the "meat" as well as their looks. This is not to claim men are less shallow than women on the whole. But the online scene is just as shallow as anywhere else men and women gather. BTW. The online dating success rate for a man who isn't very physically attractive is very small. Most men trying to date online would love a 20% response rate. Even women who say they just want an average looking man have way higher standards than they think. A recent study found that women ranked 80% of men's photos below average (the men in the study did not make a similar error guessing about average women.)
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reader, singinbluebird  +, writes (28 December 2015):
 Try online dating. Theres such a huge pool of single ladies out there you just have to message them and see where it goes. Don't take it personally if you dont get a 100% response rate from women, the right girl though---will be the one that replies. You may get a 20% reply rate but then you will also meet about 40% of the women who DO reply. Yes seems a bit hard, but trust me...allowing yourself as a man to feel comfortable around women is the key. If you cant write a decent profile, have a more experience friend read and help you. Online dating isnt personal and remember---Have fun!
Work out also, make friends, do everything you can to feel socially, mentally, and physically healthy and it will all work out in the end.
And your virginity is not a curse. In time you will find the right girl but more importantly right now is time you live your life and meet people and just see where it goes.
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