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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi all im really lost rite now and nees some advice a week ago me an my bf had a huge row he pushed me to the floor so i got up an slapped him an told him never 2 put his hands on me again well he went mad an tried 2 choke me i was terrifed i i couldn brethe then he let me go an punched the wall and broke his hand he ended up in the hospital to get a cast told me not to come near the hospital his mother was there hes 27 by the way an that he didnt no bout us anymore i havent heard a thing since an his mobile has been turned off we have been 2gedr 4 3 years how cud he do that an then not even tell me if wer 2gedr r not im so confused i no i should hate him an run but i cant im in love with him do u tink he just needs 2 calm down ?? do i wait ?? please help thanks in advance xxx
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reader, cutiemax09  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Well since he's violent i think that u should just forget about him and try your best to never ever speak to him agan because he means you no good. You see alot of things happen on the news about when ppl have abusive bfs or husbands so plz be careful and TAKE CARE!!!!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Keep away from this scumbag my dear!!!! You had a lucky escape, he could have killed you. I think you should report him to the police for attempted murder.
Has he ever been violent before? Once a wife beater is always a wife beater. Just thank God, he never killed you and find a lovely young man who will treat you like a Princess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): My dear,
1st, as a survivor of an abusive relationship, here is what you should do:
1. If you believe in a god, any god, thank him/her.
2. Move on.
Today it is pushing to the ground, choking, belittling & verbal BS.
Tomorrow it will be a knife or a gun or a car and your broken bleeding body laying on the ground.
Picture your friends and family and their faces at your funeral.
Picture a future child being raised by strangers, or even worse, by HIM because you are dead or in a hospital in permanent coma/disability.
This is a gift my dear.
Get your head right, NO ONE deserves to be treated the way you have been treated.
Get yourself a job, an education or a hobby. ANYTHING to occupy your mind and better yourself.
Good luck and know that many have survived worse and now realize that being hit and talked down to is NOT love.
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reader, O Connor +, writes (16 July 2008):
 no you dont wait - you thank god and run. this guy tried to choke you and ended up in hospital due to his violence and you want to wait for him? hunny, come on, wake up and realise wat road this one is going down. lets say you get back together, another fight happens, a bigger one - wat does he do then? go further than choking you?
this guy is dangerous, thank god that you have been lucky enough to be given a chance to get out of this and do it quickly.
i know you love him, but do you love getting beaten, and eventually getting the confidence knocked out of you?
sweetheart respect yourself and leave him, delete him please. and if he wants you back please say no - he may seem like he's sorry and really loves you but the damage is done. he would do it again. believe me. email me if you want. xxx
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